Minneapolis, MN (PRWEB) December 05, 2011
According to human behaviorist and author Nick Tasler, most holiday stress is really decision fatigue. In order to have an enjoyable and truly festive season, Tasler says we need to lighten up and stop trying for perfection.
“Our stress comes from the fact that we’re always trying to find the perfect gift, attend all the right parties, cook an amazing turkey and basically please everyone. Making those kinds of decisions is exhausting and that’s what leads to so much stress,” says Tasler. “Instead, understand the motivations that make you happy and go from there. Use your Decision Pulse to compromise on the details, not on the direction. And stop trying to make everything so great. Making the holidays more enjoyable is a much more attainable and satisfying goal.”
Tasler identifies five key behaviors that create the most stress for people during the holidays. Here are some ways to avoid those behaviors and enjoy a relaxed and fun holiday season this year.
1. Don’t be a Goldilocks gifter. Buy your loved ones the gift you think they would most like and be done with it. Don’t agonize over the perfect gift. If you’re truly not sure, ask that person what they would like to receive. And then go buy it.
2. Don’t try to please everyone. Set boundaries in terms of how many parties you will go to, how many gifts you’ll give the kids and where you will spend key holidays. Then stick to it.
3. Understand your own motivation or what Tasler calls a “Decision Pulse”. If you value relationships, spend most of your time with loved ones, not big parties filled with strangers. If your Decision Pulse is Security, make sticking to your budget your main priority this year.
4. Compromise on the details, not the direction. If you’ve decided to buy a certain number of gifts for the kids this year, don’t agonize over buying those purple glitter hightops that you think are awful. If he wants them, and they’re in the budget, buy them.
5. When you’re feeling frazzled, stop for a moment. Ask yourself why you’re doing what you’re doing. It’s likely you’re not being true to yourself at that point.
Want to know your own Decision Pulse so you can make the right decisions for you and your family this year? Visit DecisionPulse.com and take the free assessment tool today.
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