Now, girls can express aggression indirectly in many different ways.
New York, NY (PRWEB) December 08, 2011
Nationally recognized expert Rachel Simmons, shares her thoughts and advice for teen girls struggling with their weight, self-esteem and relationships in a special fitsmiForMoms.com Radio podcast. Ms. Simmons, author of several books, including bestseller Odd Girl Out: the Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls, is co-founder and director of The Girls Leadership Institute.
Speaking with host Linda Frankenbach, founder and CEO of fitsmi.com and fitsmiForMoms.com, Ms. Simmons discussed her experiences as a child and her realization that aggressive behavior towards peers was not just for boys.
Ms. Simmons explained, “I think this stereotype of girls -- sugar and spice and everything nice -- influenced the kinds of questions that were being asked of girls, and the expectations people had when they went into conversations with girls.”
She adds, “Now, girls can express aggression indirectly in many different ways. They may use silence and body language. Instead of talking to someone who bothers them, they gossip about or spread rumors about that person. They may resort to electronic aggression, posting status updates or using texting as a way to express themselves. You know, the list goes on and on, but what these all have in common is not talking to the person who really bothers you, and really not confronting that person in an attempt to resolve the conflict directly and quickly.”
Rachel Simmons also shares her advice for overweight girls about bullying, “I would offer the advice that I give any girl who’s struggling, because it’s certainly not just only overweight girls who struggle with aggression and bullying, and that is to find one friend, just one, that you really trust and care about, and who you can be vulnerable with and your true self with, and who really understands you. And if you can have that one friend, that’s really all you need. You don’t need more than that.
“I think part of where girls get—and families get kind of caught up, is this belief that you have to have a lot of friends and be at the center of attention, and have an invitation to every party. I don’t want to suggest that that’s not a lovely thing to have happen to your child, it certainly is. But it does not necessarily correlate to her health to have that many friends. We know, though, that one good friend will help your child get through those years very effectively."
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