The single most important way to show support to those who are grieving is by not minimizing their loss...
Geneva, IL (PRWEB) April 21, 2011
The Comfort Company, an online retailer of unique sympathy gifts, has identified the 10 best ways to give grieving mothers support and comfort on the most difficult day of the year – Mother's Day. The Comfort Company recently conducted a web-based survey asking grieving mothers, "What can others say, do or give that would bring you comfort on Mother's Day?”
Over 80 percent of respondents answered, "Recognize that I am a mother." In addition, nearly every mother surveyed wanted her loss to be remembered with a card, a phone call, a gift or a hug. Over half of the mothers surveyed considered Mother's Day to be their most difficult holiday.
In response to the heartfelt answers given by the survey participants, The Comfort Company has issued a list of the ten things grieving mothers want most for Mother's Day:
1. Recognize That They Are a Mother: Offer a hug and a heartfelt "Happy Mother's Day." Send a simple Mother's Day card to let them know you remember that they are a mother, even though their child is not with them physically.
2. Acknowledge Their Loss: Sympathy messages can be simple, yet powerful, for example: "I know this might be a difficult day for you and I want you to know that I am thinking about you today." Removing the wall of silence gives a grieving mother permission to talk about her child.
3. Use Her Child’s Name in Conversation: Saying the name of a child who has died is like music to a grieving mother's ears. One mother suggested, "Say his name and ask me my fondest memory of him from past Mother's Days".
4. Plant a Living Memorial: This is a wonderful day to plant a tree or flower bulbs in memory of the child. This creates something that will live on as a beautiful reminder in years to come.
5. Visit the Gravesite: Many mothers felt that it was extremely thoughtful when others visited their child's gravesite and left flowers or a small pebble near the headstone.
6. Light a Candle: Let the mother know you will light a candle in memory of her child on Mother's Day.
7. Share a Memory or Pictures of the Child: Give the precious gift of a memory. One mother wrote that the "greatest gift you can give is a heartfelt letter about my child and your most lovely moments with them."
8. Send a Gift of Remembrance: Many mothers suggested appropriate gifts of remembrance that would bring them comfort. These items included anything personalized with the child's name or a date, such as an angel statue, a piece of jewelry, a memory box, a memorial candle, a picture frame, an ornament, or even a library book donation, books on grief, a garden stone or a toy donation in the child's name.
9. Don't Try to Minimize Their Loss: Avoid using any clichés that attempt to explain the death of a child, such as "God needed another angel." In addition, don't try to find anything positive about the loss, such as "You still have two healthy children," or "She's in a better place."
10. Encourage Self-Care: Self-care is an important aspect of healing the mind and spirit according to several mothers. Encourage a grieving mother to take care of herself. Send a gift certificate to a day spa or any place where she can be pampered and take her mind off her grief for an hour or two.
About The Comfort Company: The Comfort Company was founded in 2000, when Renee Wood wanted to send a heartfelt sympathy gift to her sister-in-law on her father's death. Unable to find something that evoked real sympathy, Renee created her own sterling silver pendant with the help of a local silversmith. The Comfort Company was born shortly thereafter to provide "Gifts of Hope for Healing Hearts."