Grieving a Soulmate, Not all Grief is Equal

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Now available in paperback and e-book, Grieving a Soulmate is a gentle and informed guide to the complicated grief triggered by “Death Do Us Part.” It provides an in-depth look at the specifics of soulmate grief.

A useful guide to end-of-life issues and a profound reflection on their meaning.
—Kirkus Discoveries

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Grieving a soulmate is not the same as grieving a child or grieving a parent. Each of these griefs has specific characteristics and patterns that must be dealt with accordingly. Much of the grief literature does not differentiate between the different types of grief. However, there is a case to be made that each type of grief must be given its own special consideration. For example, the grief associated with the loss of a soulmate is extremely devastating because so many adult-to-adult bonds are destroyed all at once. The grief will vary according to the strength and length of the relationship. The greater the love, the greater the grief. The deep pain of grief is the flip side of the happiness the soulmates once shared. The unbearable emptiness that follows can result in a complicated form of grieving. This book is about the death of a soulmate and the deep grieving that follows. It provides a template for the “grief work” required to deal with this type of grief.

Grieving a Soulmate: The Love Story Behind “Till Death Do Us Part” takes on this difficult and very personal topic with courage, out-of-the box thinking, and deep love. Ranging from the practical to the emotional––and frequently blending the two––Orfali’s style of writing makes a difficult topic easier to manage. He writes in an easy style that is analytical, yet speaks from the heart. The content is thought-provoking, unique and original. It’s your gentle and informed guide to the deep grieving that accompanies the death of a soulmate. This book should help a surviving soulmate (or spouse) quickly overcome the red-hot pain of grief. It also tells you how to reconstruct your life, find meaning, and deal with the big existential issues from a secular perspective. It’s a survival guide for the last stages in a soulmate relationship.

“Orfali writes in a straightforward, often bullet-pointed style, but infuses it with intellectual seriousness and emotional depth. The result is both a useful guide to end-of-life issues and a profound reflection on their meaning. A heartening testament to the ability of love to transcend loss." — Kirkus Discoveries

Robert Orfali and his soulmate of thirty years, Jeri Edwards Orfali, were both in the computer software field in the early days of Silicon Valley. They co-authored three best-selling software books and together went on several world tours to promote their technology. Jeri was diagnosed with ovarian cancer, in 1999, shortly after they moved to Hawaii. Jeri and Robert spent the next ten years fighting Jeri's cancer and learning how to live with it. Jeri even learned how to surf during her chemo years. She went from “Silicon Valley Executive Woman of the Year” to “Waikiki Surfer Chick.” Jeri received one of the most moving surfer funerals ever. Her ashes are in the ocean at Waikiki.

Paperback: 280 pages
Publisher: Mill City Press, Inc. 

ISBN-10: 1936400669
ISBN-13: 978-1936400669

Paperback list price: $14.95
E-book list price: $ 6.99

Book and e-book available from Amazon, Barnes and Noble, Apple Store, and others.
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