Therapist Announces New Formula for Why Powerful Men Cheat

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"There is a 'type' of man who cheats. This man is not merely a 'sexist pig', but he is a successful man with clout, takes risks, is stressed, and has ample opportunities. While I do not excuse adulterous behavior, explaining how and why it happens is a big step towards change and healing."

Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, PhD, author of Adultery the Forgivable Sin dispels myths surrounding men in powerful roles and announces her formula for why successful men are more prone to cheating. “Sex scandals break out in the news daily. Of late, Arnold Schwarzenegger’s confession of harboring a ten year lie about fathering a child with a household employee, and Dominique Strauss-Kahn, the French politician accused of sexual improprieties with a hotel maid perpetuates the age-old cliché that men are ‘sexist pigs’. My theory of powerful men cheating explains but doesn’t excuse their behavior, which is a big step towards change and healing.”

“Men who rise to the top in successful careers have certain characteristics that helped them become high achievers. But those same characteristics can cause their fall from social and family graces,” explains Dr. Bonnie.

Success brings power. The question is why do men take liberties that most likely will cause emotional pain, social embarrassment, and financial ruin. “Rising to power is fueled by risk taking traits that are biologically ingrained. This same risk taker needs to soothe the anxiety brought on by risk taking behavior. Some people go for a walk while others meditate to calm themselves. But with men in power, more opportunities for temptation arise. My theory outlined in the book Adultery the Forgivable Sin—that cheating comes from a bio chemical craving for connection explains this in detail,” Dr. Bonnie explains.

“While the phrase ‘it’s lonely at the top’ is a cliché, it can also explain the dynamics of cheating. Unresolved anger, frustration, resentment, and fear can be the unconscious driving force for some men particularly those in powerful positions to take liberties they do not own.”

Dr. Bonnie teaches the theory that while all men in power don’t cheat, biological factors, social opportunities, and unresolved issues create a set up for infidelities and improprieties. In her therapy practice, Dr. Bonnie counsels couples suffering and healing from the ravages of adultery. “This social issue doesn’t only pervade the rich, famous and powerful. As long as individuals refuse to get to the root of the reasons behind their behavior, this social ill continues to alienate and tear down family structures.”

Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil (Dr. Bonnie) is a relationship expert who was named by Psychology Today as one of America’s best therapists, and by New York Magazine as one of New York City’s best therapists. Known as “The Adultery Buster” and the “No. 1 Love Expert,” she is the best-selling author of Adultery: The Forgivable Sin (adapted into a Lifetime movie starring actress Kate Jackson), Make Up Don’t Break Up, Finding and Keeping Love for Singles and Couples (Revised edition Feb 2010, including DVD How to Fall in Love and Stay in Love for Singles and Couples) and winner of the NY Times Reader’s Choice award for best dating book 2010, Can We Cure and Forgive Adultery?, Staying Not Straying, How Not to (S)mother Your Man and Keep a Woman Happy, and Financial Infidelity (Making Money Sexy).
Dr. Bonnie has appeared on ABC’s Good Morning America, a three-day series on NBC’s The Today Show, The Oprah Winfrey Show five times, a four day series on Fox TV regarding dating, Discovery Health documentary "Infidelity" and A&E on addictions. She appears frequently on ABC, Fox, CBS and NBC News, The View, 20/20, and CNN. Visit Dr. Bonnie at

Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, PhD, author of the NY Times Reader’s Choice Award winning book Make Up Don’t Break Up with accompanying DVD Falling in Love and Staying In Love counsels couples considering breaking up, people who have committed adultery, and couples who want to strengthen their relationships damaged by resentment or unresolved anger, teaching people to “fight” to increase passion, bring back magic and restore the sizzle. Dr. Bonnie teaches Smart Heart Dialogue along with communication and connection tools, and counsels families and children.
For interview contact Diane Dennis, Inspired Media Communication at 503-678-1356 or dianeden(at)centurytel(dot)net


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