Therapist Teaches How To Increase Frequency of Sex for Long Term Couples

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A vast number of long term couples are unhappy with the frequency of sex according to a survey. "The amount of sex a couple has a direct correlation to the health of the relationship," explains Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, PhD author of Make Up Don't Break Up, who has a formula for increasing sexual satisfaction for couples in long term relationships.

In response to recent research that shows that many long term couples are not happy with the frequency of sex (, Dr. Bonnie explains the correlation between long-term relationships and less sex.

“The amount of sex a couple has is the litmus test to how much satisfaction and effort they are putting into their relationship. The survey published in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy states that 54 percent of men and 42 percent of women reported unhappiness with the frequency of sex. It is clear that the pattern of how often couples copulate is a direct reflection on the health of their relationship. In long-term marriages it is easy to become lax in effort, imagination and ingenuity. For a healthy sex life, couples must make sex a priority, with all of the romance and effort they put into it when they first got together,” says Dr. Bonnie

"I have a formula for how to put the sizzle back in relationships which will increase a couples desire for more sex,” responds Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, PhD. In her NY Times Reader’s Choice Winner for best dating book 2010, Make Up Don’t Break Up, Dr. Bonnie offers suggestions for how to make more love. “Don’t forget to date,” Dr. Bonnie advises.

Make Up Don’t Break Up is chock full of innovative ways couples can be playful, respectful, intimate, and loving. “Fantasy Friday’s” is an example outlined in the book showing couples taking turns surprising their mate with a fantasy date. “Using imagination, and preparing in advance for romance goes a long way towards increased heat in the bedroom,” Dr. Bonnie explains.

The survey also revealed that a third of the women interviewed complained that they were having more sex than they wanted. “Men may want more sex, but women want quality explains Dr. Bonnie, adding that romance adds the emotional intimacy women crave. “Send notes, text romantic thoughts, and let your partner know that you are thinking of her the entire day, not just the moment you hit the sheets.”

Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil (Dr. Bonnie) is a relationship expert who was named by Psychology Today as one of America’s best therapists, and by New York Magazine as one of New York City’s best therapists. Known as “The Adultery Buster” and the “No. 1 Love Expert,” she is the best-selling author of Adultery: The Forgivable Sin (adapted into a Lifetime movie starring actress Kate Jackson), Make Up Don’t Break Up, Finding and Keeping Love for Singles and Couples (Revised edition Feb 2010, including DVD How to Fall in Love and Stay in Love for Singles and Couples) and winner of the NY Times Reader’s Choice award for best dating book 2010, Can We Cure and Forgive Adultery?, Staying Not Straying, How Not to (S)mother Your Man and Keep a Woman Happy, and Financial Infidelity (Making Money Sexy).

Dr. Bonnie has appeared on ABC’s Good Morning America, a three-day series on NBC’s The Today Show, The Oprah Winfrey Show five times, a four day series on Fox TV regarding dating, Discovery Health documentary "Infidelity" and A&E on addictions. She appears frequently on ABC, Fox, CBS and NBC News, The View, 20/20, and CNN. Visit Dr. Bonnie at

Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, PhD, author of the NY Times Reader’s Choice Award winning book Make Up Don’t Break Up with accompanying DVD Falling in Love and Staying In Love counsels couples considering breaking up, people who have committed adultery, and couples who want to strengthen their relationships damaged by resentment or unresolved anger, teaching people to “fight” to increase passion, bring back magic and restore the sizzle. Dr. Bonnie teaches Smart Heart Dialogue along with communication and connection tools, and counsels families and children.

For interview contact Diane Dennis, Inspired Media Communication at 503-678-1356 or dianeden(at)centurytel(dot)net

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