Wilmington, DE (PRWEB) June 09, 2011
One of the most difficult things for ex-offenders to accomplish when they are released from prison is finding employment and becoming a productive member of society. For many, the stigma of a criminal record and the guilt of being arrested are just too much to overcome. For some it is difficult to find forgiveness for themselves. For others, like Allison, it is a matter of viewing obstacles as an opportunity. “I Was I Am…How to Move beyond Your Past to Create an Extraordinary Life” http://www.allisontmoore.com, a book by motivational speaker, author and ex-inmate Allison Moore, provides an account of her prison experience as the catalyst for change and guidelines for those who struggle with being hindered by their past, using eight steps to forgiveness.
1. Understanding What Forgiveness Is-Forgiveness is setting a prisoner free. You become free of bitterness, and free to enjoy your present and your future. For me it was a physical and mental prison. It significantly reduces vulnerability to physical sickness in you. It reduces the amount of toxins in your body. Forgiveness will make you healthier.
2. Understanding What Forgiveness Is Not-Forgiveness is NOT condoning the wrong behavior, NOT forgetting about it, NOT denial, pretending it didn’t happen, and does NOT mean the pain has gone away. For me it was a decision.
3. Write down the name of the person you need to forgive-I actually wrote letters to people who I needed to forgive and those whom I was asking to forgive me.
4. Take your piece of paper and write- I forgive ____________ (fill in the person’s name) for _______________ (write it all down) and it made me feel __________________. Write as much as you need to. Even write your name if necessary if you need to forgive yourself.
5. Destroy the list-Rip burn bury, whatever it takes.
6. Be sure to accept your part of the blame for the offenses you suffered, where applicable
7. Do not expect that your decision to forgive will result in major changes in the other person.
8. Put your energy into looking for another way to get your positive goals met than through the experience that has hurt you. - Instead of mentally replaying your hurt, seek out new ways to get what you want. For me it was the book. I no longer saw myself as the victim.
Moore wrote, “I Was I Am: How to Move beyond Your Past to Create an Extraordinary Life” (Allison T Moore Publishing, July 2010, $14.99) not just for individuals with a criminal record or who have been incarcerated, but for those who have past experiences that prevent them from living a full life. One of those experiences for Allison was forgiveness. The book draws from her experiences in order to educate readers on the reality of the benefit of not only forgiving those who hurt you but the process of forgiving oneself.
Allison Tammy Moore’s own rise from being labeled a habitual offender to prominence deems her an expert on personal success; including forgiveness. “There were a lot of people who I found it hard to forgive, forgiving myself being the most challenging.” Allison went to prison and developed her own method of recovery by redefining success through journaling, positive affirmations, and the process of forgiveness. Through persistence and determination, this ex-offender to extraordinary woman, immediately used her past to fuel her passions, became a published author, speaker and entrepreneur. She conducts Memoir Therapy workshops to help other experience healing through writing and forgiveness “I decided to share my experiences in the hope that my book will help readers remove the limitations to being successful” she says.