"Make Up Don't Break Up," with Accompanying DVD "Falling in Love and Staying in Love," Becomes NY Times Reader's Choice Award for Best Dating Book 2011

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Author and relationship therapist Bonnie Eaker Weil, PhD, wrote Make Up Don't Break Up to assist couples learn how to cope with adversity, communicate using the Smart Heart Dialogue she created and assist couples in moving their relationship towards committment, using a 'brush with death' strategy coined in her book. "The Brush with Death must be done at the right time and comes with risks. Couples must be willing to say goodbye permanently if one of the partners doesn't choose to come back," Dr. Bonnie warns. "However, if both couples find themselves miserable and missing one another, breaking up can be the catalyst towards a stronger commitment."

Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, PhD, teaches couples skills in her award-winning book Make Up Don't Break Up. "When couples find their feelings for one another begin to fade, breaking up is a common choice. This can have unintended and positive results if the couple finds they really miss one another," Dr. Bonnie explains. The 'brush with death' strategy works when a relationship is stagnant, couples are taking each other for granted, or one of the partners is losing interest. Breaking up can create an opportunity for a deeper commitment when they realize how much they have lost. Weil said, "I wrote the book because couples are attracted to one another for many reasons that are rich with opportunities to grow and mature. Ending relationships often happen because couples are unhappy but don't know what to do about it."

“Justin Timberlake and Jessica Biel’s recent break up and reconciliation offers a perfect example of how a brush with death offers couples a chance to see how miserable they are apart. Once separated, many men realize that the grass isn’t always greener,” Dr. Bonnie says. “Breaking up to make up gives couples a chance to discover how much they miss the closeness and connection they had before the break up. A new appreciation is often created when there is a risk of losing that connection forever.”

Break ups are filled with both risks and opportunities. “Breaking up can breathe the life and love back into a relationship that has lost its luster. However it is a critical stage in a relationship where it can either move forward or cause the end. This tactic brings all of the cards out on the table,” Dr. Bonnie explains. "Most couples break up because they feel the relationship has run its course. Unfortunately many couples aren't aware that communication skills need to be developed to move the relationship to the next level. Sometimes, simply breaking up makes couples more invested in working harder once they realize all they are losing."

'Make Up Don’t Break Up,' with accompanying DVD Falling in Love & Staying in Love, is the NY Times Reader’s Choice award winner for Best Dating Book 2011. The book offers tips and practices for couples wanting clarification, commitment, and help moving to the next level of their relationships, including Dr. Bonnie's Smart Heart Dialogue techniques to help couples develop communication during difficult and transition times in relationships.

“While the verdict is out and it is too soon to tell whether Justin and Jessica will stay together, the fact that they are seeing each other publicly after announcing their break up is a positive sign that a reconciliation is in the works. Although predicting Hollywood relationships is difficult, I wouldn’t be surprised if they moved their relationship to the next level of commitment,” Dr. Bonnie says.

Dr. Bonnie has appeared on ABC’s Good Morning America, a three-day series on NBC’s The Today Show, The Oprah Winfrey Show five times, a four day series on Fox TV regarding dating, Discovery Health documentary "Adultery" and A&E on addictions. She appears frequently on ABC, Fox, CBS and NBC News, The View, 20/20, and CNN. Visit Dr. Bonnie at http://www.DoctorBonnie.com.

Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil (Dr. Bonnie) is a relationship expert who was named by Psychology Today as one of America’s best therapists, and by New York Magazine as one of New York City’s best therapists. Known as “The Adultery Buster” and the “No. 1 Love Expert,” she is the best-selling author of Adultery: The Forgivable Sin (adapted into a Lifetime movie starring actress Kate Jackson), Make Up Don’t Break Up, Finding and Keeping Love for Singles and Couples (Revised edition Feb 2010, including DVD How to Fall in Love and Stay in Love for Singles and Couples) and winner of the NY Times Reader’s Choice award for best dating book 2010, Can We Cure and Forgive Adultery?, Staying Not Straying, How Not to (S)mother Your Man and Keep a Woman Happy, and Financial Infidelity (Making Money Sexy).

Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, PhD, author of the NY Times Reader’s Choice Award winning book Make Up Don’t Break Up with accompanying DVD Falling in Love and Staying In Love counsels couples considering breaking up, people who have committed adultery, and couples who want to strengthen their relationships damaged by resentment or unresolved anger, teaching people to “fight” to increase passion, bring back magic and restore the sizzle. Dr. Bonnie teaches Smart Heart Dialogue along with communication and connection tools, and counsels families and children.

For interview contact Diane Dennis, Inspired Media Communication at 503-678-1356 or dianeden(at)centurytel(dot)net

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