(PRWEB) January 29, 2012
Chimps Give Us the Answer to Love this Valentine's Day
A recent article in Cosmo Magazine discusses "Touches that Lock Down His Love." Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil comments on what made this article different: "There are tips we often hear - things like 'touching helps people feel bonded' - but this article was interesting because it made the connection between chimpanzees and humans." Humans are the only animals besides chimps that use our hands as tools to communicate emotions. One of the keys to a healthy relationship is touch; a touch can release oxytocin - the cuddle hormone which makes people feel safe, bonded and happy - as well as dopamine - a brain chemical that leads to feelings of love and excitement. This is a special ability we've been given, and Dr. Bonnie encourages couples to use our unique ability for connection this Valentine's Day.
Look into each other's eyes: Dr. Bonnie recommends that couples wake up and go to bed this way: "Every morning and evening, spend 30 seconds looking into each other's eyes without saying anything." Men do better with long eye contact than with short glances - when a couple shares eye contact they'll feel more attracted to each other. This is also a good tip for dating: most people look away, but it's good to look a person in the eyes to get them to come over and talk.
Use slow caresses: This type of touch affects an emotional area of the brain to make people feel bonded and relaxed. This is also the type of touch used by massage therapists to eradicate tension. Translate touch into a sizzling magical holiday.
Give the trapezius muscles a squeeze: This touch helps the fight and flight response that people get when they're angry. This can help alleviate a bad mood, and it's also a supportive gesture that signals the couple is a team, explains Dr. Bonnie.
Women: put your hand on his chest: This helps men feel like they are the protector and will cause that spike of dopamine which makes people feel happy and in love. Additionally, men do better with actions than with words so they especially crave physical touch. It helps them feel more loving and sexy toward their significant others.
Bonus: Use what Dr. Bonnie calls verbal aphrodisiacs. Whisper in his ear, telling him his lovable qualities. Plus, the breath created during a whisper also produces another form of touch. All of these are exercises Dr. Bonnie recommends not just for Valentine's Day but for every day.