(PRWEB) October 25, 2012
Patrons of the Polo Lounge at the Beverly Hills Hotel will lose its charm as it undergoes a makeover, and that a bridge from Old Hollywood to the industry today will be lost (http://nyti.ms/XPA349). Therapist Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil says that losing a beloved institution can be like experiencing a physical loss in life. "Losing bridges to our past is a painful thing," she explains, "and it's important to keep that nostalgia alive. It's no wonder that many in the industry are worried what will happen to the Polo Lounge." It was a part of the surroundings for the people who spent time in it, almost like a nature retreat, explains Dr. Bonnie. It was familiar and nurturing, something that calms brain chemicals and creates feelings of security.
Holding on to pieces of the past can be healthy for people, to connect them to where they've come from and to encourage them to move forward. Whether this comes in the form of a special Lounge, a favorite restaurant, or spending time with a specific person, Dr. Bonnie encourages people to find these road marks in their lives. "Often, places play an important part in who we become - we may have had a break through in our career while working in a particular office, we may have had a creative epiphany while walking in a particular park, and so on." She emphasizes the importance of staying connected to these things, which is why a makeover of a beloved spot can have a deep impact although it might seem superficial.
As life gets busier and there are more distractions, making time for these "bridges to the past" becomes even more important. Dr. Bonnie suggests people take some time to think about what these bridges look like in their own lives, then to make a plan to visit them on a fairly regular basis. She suggests people do things like - having dinner at the place where they met their partner; sit on the bench where they sat when they first came to their city; visit the building or house that played a role in getting them to where they are today.
She says, "Even if these physical sites have changed - like the Polo Lounge - or are no longer available, people can still make them a part of their lives." And that's the important part, she emphasizes: people should remember where they came from so they can make more sense of where they're going.
To see more of Dr. Bonnie talking about how the past can affect people, click here: http://youtu.be/Of4eu9lhKvQ or check out her books, Make Up Don't Break Up and Financial Infidelity.
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