(PRWEB) October 30, 2012
The New York Times contends that people are getting more inconsiderate as technology gets more advanced and ever-present (http://nyti.ms/RibtUF). Relationship therapist Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil says she's seen this problem manifests itself as narcissism, within the patients she treats at her practice. "With so much available with a few clicks or at the touch of a screen, it's easy to become more and more impatient and self-centered," she says. The New York Times article says this is seen when people don't honor their commitments and instead wait for something better to come along.
Dr. Bonnie agrees: "Not only are their a plethora of options, and people can choose the best and leave the rest; but also people are much less likely to commit to something in advance." This makes it more difficult to plan any sort of event - whether it's coffee one-on-one, or a party for a group of people. Priorities are no longer given to face-to-face interaction and Dr. Bonnie says this needs to change.
The good thing about setting plans electronically is that communication is in writing - for this reason, Dr. Bonnie believes that things should be taken more seriously, not less. But because technology enables people to cancel at any time, to hear about a last minute event that may be better, the offline rules of etiquette don't seem to apply. Instead, people are hiding behind email and text to do things they normally wouldn't, points out Dr. Bonnie.
Those prone to narcissism will find more readily available channels for self-indulgence. People who are easily depressed or who struggle with obsessive compulsive disorder will experience higher highs and lower lows thanks to that device in their pocket. Families struggling to spend time together now have another hurdle as dinners and gatherings can be spent with fingers glued to the phone.
Like she talks about in her book, Make Up, Don't Break Up, Dr. Bonnie encourages to make plans electronically, but don't use technology as an easy way to break those plans! Additionally, taking some off-screen, "real life" time is important as well.
To see Dr. Bonnie talking more about the importance of the mind/body connection click here: