(PRWEB) October 01, 2012
An 8-year-old Illinois boy decided to give away $1000 in prize money he won during a scavenger hunt. He donated it to help his 2-year-old neighbor in her fight with cancer (http://yhoo.it/Qv5iQE). This act of giving has inspired others; people have been sending in money to help and a local charity matched the boy's gift. Family therapist Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil says in an age of constant negative news it's important to hear these types of stories - but also for people to ask how they can help out in their community.
"It's very encouraging to see the response that this boy provoked," she says. "The gift of $1000 was impressive on its own but it then spurred a chain reaction." Dr. Bonnie points out that this just goes to show we don't know what types of results actions will have, so it's all the more important people strive toward positivity!
First, Dr. Bonnie says it's important to "start with yourself and get rid of any guilt or emotional baggage around giving, expectations, and selflessness. This will help the gift will have more impact on YOU! After all, it is truly more blessed to give than receive." She tells her patients that "forgiveness is a gift you give yourself." She explains that people can't truly move forward to think of others when they are harboring any guilt or resentment toward past behavior.
Moving on from there, Dr. Bonnie encourages people to do nice things for their loved ones. "We tend to show our “best selves” to the people who play less-important roles in our lives, and often end up hurting the ones we love." Simple, Dr. Bonnie says people should learn to be nice to each other again, to treat each other respectfully. She hopes people will make these activities a top priority! When people help eachother, they get what's called a "helper's high," which is really a dopamine high. Dopamine is a brain chemical that makes them feel loved and alive.
When people treat themselves and their loved ones kindly, it's likely to spill out into the rest of the world - and don't underestimate the impact it can have!
To see Dr. Bonnie talking more about being nice to the ones you love the most, click here: http://youtu.be/yanAAybsoq4, or check out her book Make Up Don't Break Up, and to learn more about the Helper's High, check out her book Financial Infidelity.