San Mateo, CA (PRWEB) October 04, 2012
The ultimate key to how to approach a girl lies in how a guy lives his life. That often means a life where he is dating other women or is so fulfilled in the life he is living that approaching a woman comes as second nature, almost as an afterthought, says Dating Expert Carlos Xuma in his new report.
“A single guy who is regularly dating several women at once is never desperate and really doesn’t place all that much importance on whether one particular woman responds to him or not and so he ends up coming off as super confident, which ends up being ultra attractive to women,” Xuma says. “That is the key to how to approach a girl.”
He adds that the keys to approaching a woman with nonchalance and confidence also depends on a guy being able to compare different women with one another so he doesn’t place one woman on a pedestal, but has a realistic measure of comparison.
“In other words, a guy’s hopes — and self-esteem — is not dependent or hung up on whether one particular girl responds to him,” Xuma says. “He knows that other women like him and this builds on his confidence level. Girls instinctively sense this and he automatically becomes more appealing and more desirable to others.”
Having a fulfilling and busy lifestyle also keeps a guy from wasting his time trying to figure out how to approach a girl who really isn’t interested or may not be the best match for him.
“Maybe a girl is lukewarm toward him, so the guy has no problem moving on because he knows that three other girls he is dating really respond to him in a positive way,” explains Xuma in his report.
This method of learning how to approach women is especially helpful when a guy is playing the field, just learning the rules in the dating arena, and not necessarily ready to settle down.
“But the beauty of this is when a guy does decide he’s ready to settle down, he can change the game, but his attractiveness, confidence and lifestyle will help him attract that one special person more than many other factors,” Xuma says. “When he does decide to quit playing the field, he is offering the best self he can to a woman.”
Carlos Xuma has spent years teaching hundreds of men through his website at http://www.carlosxuma.com how to attract women and has been a dating expert and attraction adviser for more than 10 years. He has appeared on ABC and CBS television, as well as Playboy radio. He’s the author of The Bad Boy Formula, Secrets of the Alpha Male, the Girlfriend Training Program, and numerous other books and articles. He has also been recognized for his work sharing dating advice for guys and sharing tips on pick up artist techniques, alpha male behavior, how to find a woman, and how to talk to girls.
For more information, visit Carlos Xuma’s website at http://www.carlosxuma.com