(PRWEB) October 04, 2012
Divorce Parties are becoming more popular, according to a New York Times article (http://nyti.ms/QZzJMa), and relationship therapist Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil thinks this is a good thing. She says it lets them celebrate a new life, a new beginning. After all, to quote Frank Sinatra, "Love is better the second time around." However, Dr. Bonnie believes the key is knowing what you did wrong, so you know what to do right in future relationships.
Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, PhD is the author of Make Up Don’t Break Up, NY Times Reader’s Choice award for best dating book 2010. The book highlights communication techniques such as the Smart Heart Dialogue. “The Smart Heart Dialogue is a technique that can ideally be used for couples after they end their marriage. This form of communication offers fair discussions for conflict resolution and to avoid escalation of conflict,” Dr. Bonnie adds. Using this method, couples can determine what mistakes were made so they know how to make different choices in the future.
To celebrate this awareness, Dr. Bonnie thinks divorce parties can be a good idea. Divorce is most often characterized by grief, anger, depression, fear, and depicts the ending of a bad relationship. “However, having a social event that portrays the couple as cordial, working together as a team, and refusing to pit friends against their Ex is a step towards bridging the loneliness gap that so many divorcees face,” Dr. Bonnie says.
In an era where post divorce fights about children, money, and living arrangement issues abound, making a public statement to keep the couples social structure intact is a healthy departure. “While I recommend therapy for most divorced individuals, there is much to be said for social support during the healing process. Keeping instead of losing friends is key during this difficult time of transition for divorcees,” advises Dr. Bonnie. A party can help an individual or former couple strengthen their support system through the transition, and start their new life on the right foot.