San Mateo, CA (PRWEB) December 25, 2012
Somewhere along with line, men got the impression that what women wanted was some sensitive, sweet guy they could cuddle up with and share every fleeting thought they had; to live up to this, many guys began trying to mold themselves into the image, and in the process lose touch with their natural male traits. In his new report, Dating Expert Carlos Xuma says that this was a mistake.
“You don’t have to squash all your alpha male traits and characteristics in order to learn how to talk to women,” Xuma says in his new report. “Learning how to strike up a meaningful and captivating conversation has nothing to do with being overly sensitive and becoming a woman’s new best friend. Instead, men can hold tight to their alpha male parts and still have engaging conversations with women.”
The problem is, as Xuma explains, a basic misunderstanding of what it means to be an alpha male.
“An alpha male is not a jerk or a bully or an insensitive thug,” Xuma says. “An alpha male is not the opposite of being a sensitive, caring guy, either. But what happens is sometimes men take the role of being that sensitive guy too far and lose all their alpha male traits. When that happens it is inevitable that the guy will end up in the dreaded friend zone. Once that happens it is next to impossible to change that impression.”
Because it's such a steep, uncertain uphill battle out of the friend zone, Xuma strongly recommends that men take caution to never land in that precarious position at all.
“Men can learn how to talk to women and hold tight to all the characteristics that make them essentially a male simply by understanding exactly what alpha male traits are,” Xuma says. “For instance, an alpha male is confident, a leader, a protector, but also a nurturer. He nurtures the pack. He takes care and protects them. These are great traits that help men talk to women. When a woman needs that sensitive side of a man, he can give it to her along with his alpha male traits.”
Learning how to talk to women in this way might take some time, but it makes a worthwhile difference, says Xuma.
“Very few men are born with the instinctive ability to talk to women in the right way,” Xuma says. “There is no shame in taking the time and making the effort to learn how to talk to women in an alpha male way.”
Carlos Xuma is the author of The Bad Boy Formula, Secrets of the Alpha Male, the Girlfriend Training Program, and numerous other books and articles. He has been a dating expert and attraction adviser for more than 10 years and has appeared on ABC and CBS television, as well as Playboy radio. He has spent years teaching hundreds of men how to attract and approach women, and how to talk to talk to women. He also shares dating advice for men on his website at http://www.datingdynamics.com.
For more information, visit Carlos Xuma's website at http://www.attractwomen.com