Treat the other half as the most loved person, learn to be independent and willing to self-correct and improve oneself. By doing so, it is not difficult to have a long-lasting marriage which you could indulge in romance at every moment.
National (PRWEB) December 21, 2012
Bestselling author and matchmaker extraordinaire Hellen Chen recently helped her 100th bachelor and bachelorette, who had been skeptical in relationships to nod their heads and become married.
In fact, she has earned the title of "Matchmaker of the Century" simply because of unlike conventional matchmakers, her prospects are often unwilling men and women who resist the idea of marriage.
Recently at a December workshop in Los Angeles, CA, she helped a 10 year divorcee who has long since abandoned the idea of another relationship to decide on marriage again.
"I am blessed with a great marriage, having met my Prince Charming 20 years ago. But that is not the reason why I encourage marriage." said Chen, whose main profession is actually not a matchmaker but the President of an international management consulting company. "I encourage marriage because that is the initial goal of most people. And a sound marriage can bring so much happiness and even freedom to a person's life."
As a boss who liked to see her employees being well-rounded in all areas of life, Chen engaged in matchmaking initially because of simply wanting to help her employees who were having problems in finding the right marriage partners.
"Everyone I met has at one point longed for a great relationship. But after one's own failures or seeing another failing at their relationships, that desire turned into disbelief and turned into hopelessness." said Chen.
From a deep passion about marriage, Chen started to help the people around her find their match and stay in marriage afterwards. She wrote countless books on the subject and her book "The Matchmaker of the Century" recently became a number one best seller in marriage books at Barnes and Noble.
Chen's famous advice of "marriage first, date later" is a shocker for most who are used to the concept of dating carefully first before selecting the right partner for marriage.
This unconventional matchmaker has however used this philosophy to successfully match couples together who then stay together. She encouraged singles to not spend time and money and energy to go around dating but to look for someone who seriously want to enter marriage.
25-year-old John Z, a young media executive who met Chen while she was interviewed at a local Los Angeles TV station, said, "I have thought I needed to have lots of money before any girl would marry me. But after I listened to Hellen, I know it is better to look for a girl now who would marry me not for money but for the right reasons."
When asked about why dating a lot to find the right partner does not work, Chen explained in a recent Fox TV interview, "When people date a lot before they get married, their hearts get broken once too often and these bad experiences accumulate. These bad experiences even carry into their marriage and the moment they encounter seemingly insurmountable hardships in the relationship, they break-off easily as they think the next gal or guy would be better."
According to this matchmaker, a marriage is not about what another person could give to self but a chance for self to learn how to give to another.
"Treat the other half as the most loved person, learn to be independent and willing to self-correct and improve oneself. By doing so, it is not difficult to have a long-lasting marriage which you could indulge in romance at every moment." smiled Chen.
Chen's marriage philosophy could be found further at http://MatchmakerOftheCentury.com