Does Demi Feel Her Problems are a Gift? Dr. Bonnie Explains How She Can Make the Most of Things

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Following her hospitalization last week, a source close to Demi Moore says the actress may view her troubles as an opportunity. However, Moore has said she's embarrassed by the meltdown which happened when she suffered a seizure after apparently smoking something at a party she attended. (http://bit.ly/xpTYCa) Sources close to Moore claim she may be struggling with substance abuse and anorexia. Dr. Bonnie explains this behavior is understandable after a traumatic dissolution of a relationship, but believes Moore can turn things around.

Following her hospitalization last week, a source close to Demi Moore says the actress may view her troubles as an opportunity. However, Moore has said she's embarrassed by the meltdown which happened when she suffered a seizure after apparently smoking something at a party she attended. (http://bit.ly/xpTYCa) Sources close to Moore claim she may be struggling with substance abuse and anorexia. Dr. Bonnie explains this behavior is understandable after a traumatic dissolution of a relationship, but believes Moore can turn things around.

"Demi obviously feels betrayed; she's acting out even though in the end she ends up embarrassed by her actions," says Dr. Bonnie. She's using substances like drugs and alcohol in attempt to calm down and self-medicate after the trauma of an affair. She's "stress-busting" says Dr. Bonnie and trying to fill up the emptiness left by Ashton's absence.

Dr. Bonnie identifies this as the biochemical craving for connection and explains this is what happens when people go through a painful experience and can't talk out their problems - they end up acting out instead. For someone as private as Moore, it's possible she's not able to communicate the pain she's feeling and the experience she's going through.

CTV News reports that Moore, an adherent to Kabbalah, is seeking spiritual counseling, but Dr. Bonnie cautions that may not be enough. "Depending on her specific problems, she may need to enter rehab - which her daughters have encouraged her to do, but which she has refused (http://bit.ly/xpTYCa)," Dr. Bonnie suggests. "At the very least she needs to keep talking things out."

Dr. Bonnie recommends a form of what she calls "Smart Heart Skills and Dialogue" and explains further in her book, Adultery the Forgivable Sin. She typically suggests the exercise for couples but which can work within a supportive community or family. "The people close to Moore need to create a safe place for her to communicate what she's going through, and Moore needs to be kept accountable to them to discuss what she's going through."

Typically, Dr. Bonnie suggests couples have a "Smart Heart" discussion once a week where each person is free to be honest, and knows they will be heard. A similar arrangement should be made for Moore and those closest to her advises Dr. Bonnie. "In addition to professional help as needed, it's crucial for someone going through this kind of trauma to have an 'on-the-ground' real world support system that contributes to emotional healing."

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Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil's best-selling book, Adultery the Forgivable Sin is being re-released under a new distributor and making its appearance available in eBook format and print on Amazon.com (http://www.amazon.com/Adultery-Forgivable-Bonnie-Eaker-Weil/dp/1587768151/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1321019076&sr=8-1). Adultery the Forgivable Sin was also made into a Lifetime Original Movie starring Kate Jackson.

Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, PhD, is also author of the 2010 New York Times Reader’s Choice Award-winning book Make Up Don’t Break Up with accompanying DVD Falling in Love and Staying In Love. Dr. Bonnie counsels couples, singles, and step families. She works with those considering breaking up, people who have committed adultery, and couples who want to strengthen their relationships damaged by resentment or unresolved anger, teaching people to “fight” to increase passion, bring back magic and restore the sizzle. Dr. Bonnie teaches Smart Heart Dialogue along with communication and connection tools, and counsel’s families and children.

Named the Best Local Therapist by the US Commerce Association and known as “The Adultery Buster” and the “No. 1 Love Expert,” she is the best-selling author of other books like Finding and Keeping Love for Singles and Couples (Revised edition Feb 2010, including DVD How to Fall in Love and Stay in Love for Singles and Couples), Can We Cure and Forgive Adultery?, How Not to (S)mother Your Man and Keep a Woman Happy, and Financial Infidelity.

Dr. Bonnie is presently featured and available now on the Discovery Health/Oprah Winfrey Network documentary titled "Unfaithful" and A&E on addictions. ABC’s Good Morning America, a three-day series on NBC’s The Today Show, The Oprah Winfrey Show five times, a four day series on Fox TV regarding dating. She appears frequently on ABC, Fox, CBS and NBC News, The View, 20/20, and CNN. Visit Dr. Bonnie at http://www.DoctorBonnie.com.

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