(PRWEB) February 12, 2012
For people thinking of asking out a co-worker this Valentine's Day - they're not alone. A survey done by CareerBuilder (http://bit.ly/z3dwpH) finds that 38 percent of workers have dated a co-worker at least once. Of the people who date, about one third of couples who met through work end up married. Navigating a work relationship can be tricky: "It's natural to fall for someone you spend so much time with," explains Dr. Bonnie, "but the converse is, that's a lot of time to spend with one person!"
Couples who meet at work and continue to work together often face different issues than couples who have separate workplaces. "It's always important for couples to nurture their individual interests and activities but it's even more crucial when the pair see each other 40+ hours per week" advises Dr. Bonnie.
Dr. Bonnie encourages work-couples not to spend overly much time together in the attached video
- "Don't always be going on breaks together or spending time socializing, others may see this as a negative reflection of the couples' ability to do their respective jobs." She also emphasizes the importance of having intentional time carved out for both couple activities and non-couple activities. "When a couple spends work time together, it can be easy for them not to be purposeful about the time they spend outside of work. Instead of letting a 40 hour work week be 'quality time,' create your own quality time!"
Another interesting statistic as "Mistress Day" (February 13th) approaches: A study reported in USA Today shows roughly 62 percent of men who were unfaithful to their spouse, and 46 percent of women, met their illicit partner through work. "Again," notes Dr. Bonnie, "with things like workaholism, demanding jobs, and high cost of living becoming more prevalent, people are spending a lot of time in the office which makes it a prime place to meet people."
In order to steer clear of an illicit office romance, "It's important to constantly re-create, revitalize, re-energize those brain chemicals that couples had when they first fell in love," says Dr. Bonnie. Engaging in behavior as simple as a 20-second hug - which releases dopamine, making you feel alive, happy or in love - or a 30-second kiss - which releases a dose of oxytocin, the cuddle hormone - will help people feel bonded and happy. These are the brain chemicals at work when people first fall in love, so making them last through life is important.