Are Women Better Cheaters than Men? Dr. Bonnie Says We're All Created Equal

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A contention that women are better cheaters than men (http://bit.ly/GKAj9V) has led therapist and relationship expert Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil to remind people that men and women cheat in similar proportion to each other, like she mentions in her book Adultery the Forgivable Sin: 65-70 percent of men cheat and 50-62 percent of women cheat. "Men cheat in higher numbers, but that doesn't mean women are better cheaters. I don't agree with the idea that women are 'better' at infidelity than men," she says. The article on YourTango making this case says women think more contextually so they are less likely to get caught.

A contention that women are better cheaters than men (http://bit.ly/GKAj9V) has led therapist and relationship expert Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil to remind people that men and women cheat in similar proportion to each other, like she mentions in her book Adultery the Forgivable Sin: 65-70 percent of men cheat and 50-62 percent of women cheat. "Men cheat in higher numbers, but that doesn't mean women are better cheaters. I don't agree with the idea that women are 'better' at infidelity than men," she says. The article on YourTango making this case says women think more contextually so they are less likely to get caught.

The article says a person's pre-disposition toward cheating has to do more with their testosterone levels, and less with extenuating circumstances (like the advent of social media). While Dr. Bonnie agrees that people who cheat often have a chemical and biological propensity toward this behavior, she points out that it's become much easier to cheat, thanks to social media. And it's a double-edged sword for people who might end up cheating anyway.

"People with high testosterone are more prone to cheating, but they're also the ones that are going to be prone to be sucked in by social media as a way to fill their biochemical craving for connection." This craving stems from stress, separation, and loss and when people experience these things, they can end up embroiled in addiction. People with high testosterone are more prone to these types of detrimental outcomes, whether men or women.

The internet has proven to be a very addictive place for people who have a propensity for addiction like porn, cheating, thrill-seeking and other behaviors - they're like a kid in a candy store with almost anything they could want at their disposal. Additionally, high testosterone levels heightens narcissism and increases sex drive, so it's the perfect storm. "If someone has high testosterone and is narcissistic," cautions Dr. Bonnie, "they've going to be more prone to going on social media."

There's no question that social media incites and escalates - making cheating easier. But on the other hand, social media like Facebook and Twitter makes it impossible for people to cheat without being found out. Says Dr. Bonnie: "People can be their own private eye and find everything out relatively easily." With reality TV, a propensity to gossip spurred by social media, and the idea that misery loves company, discovering that a partner is cheating doesn't have to be difficult - Craigslist and the internet is the "worldwide snoop" mentions Dr. Bonnie.

And this is actually good news. Cheaters are getting caught earlier on, before extreme damage is done, and more people are able to keep their relationship together.

To see Dr. Bonnie talking more about cheating, intimacy, and infidelity, watch her videos here: http://youtu.be/nmEShUlejj8 and here: http://youtu.be/UWFriVLUQDg. And check out her documentary, Unfaithful with the Oprah Winfrey Network and Discovery Health: http://bit.ly/GSP0KB

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Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil's best-selling book, Adultery the Forgivable Sin is being re-released under a new distributor and making its appearance available in eBook format and print on Amazon.com (http://www.amazon.com/Adultery-Forgivable-Bonnie-Eaker-Weil/dp/1587768151/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1321019076&sr=8-1). Adultery the Forgivable Sin was also made into a Lifetime Original Movie starring Kate Jackson.

Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, PhD, is also author of the 2010 New York Times Reader’s Choice Award-winning book Make Up Don’t Break Up with accompanying DVD. Dr. Bonnie is a marriage counselor treating couples, singles, and step families. She works with those considering breaking up, people who have committed adultery, and couples who want to strengthen their relationships damaged by resentment or unresolved anger, teaching people to “fight” to increase passion, bring back magic and restore the sizzle.

As a marriage and family therapist, Dr. Bonnie teaches Smart Heart Dialogue along with intimacy, communication, and connection tools, and counsels families and children.

Named the Best Local New York Therapist in 2011 by the US Commerce Association and known as “The Adultery Buster” and the “No. 1 Love Expert,” she is the best-selling author of other books like Can We Cure and Forgive Adultery?, How Not to (S)mother Your Man and Keep a Woman Happy, and Financial Infidelity: Making Money Sexy.

Dr. Bonnie was named by Psychology Today and NY Magazine as one of America's Best Therapists and is presently featured and available now on the Discovery Health/Oprah Winfrey Network documentary titled "Unfaithful" (http://bit.ly/GSP0KB) and A&E on addictions. Find her on Good Morning America, on the Today Show's three-day series on infidelity, The Oprah Winfrey Show five times, and a four day series on Fox TV regarding dating. She appears frequently on ABC, Fox, CBS and NBC News, The View, 20/20, and CNN; and is often featured in USA Today and the New York Times. Visit Dr. Bonnie at http://www.DoctorBonnie.com.

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