Dr. Bonnie Comments on the Power of Love to Change the Brain

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Our brain is constantly renewing itself based on our experiences, and a healthy, happy relationship is perhaps the most beneficial experience we can have. According to an article in the New York Times (http://nyti.ms/HEtzMo) scientists used to think that relationships that formed the brain stopped with familial relationships in childhood. But research shows this re-forming continues and, therapist Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil points out, "happy relationships relieve stress in adulthood."

Our brain is constantly renewing itself based on our experiences and a healthy, happy relationship is perhaps the most beneficial experience we can have. According to an article in the New York Times (http://nyti.ms/HEtzMo) scientists used to think that relationships that formed the brain stopped with familial relationships in childhood. But research shows this re-forming continues and, therapist Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil points out, "happy relationships relieve stress in adulthood."

As the article points out, the things that happen when people fall in love and begin life with someone new create a variety of experiences - from learning to trust another person, to trying new foods - that revamp the brain. When there is love, brain chemicals change.

Dr. Bonnie, who works with couples and frequently addresses issues of infidelity, notes that these chemicals play a role in the addictive behavior that leads to the demise of many relationships. But conversely, healthy relationships have a positive affect. She points to a few behaviors that can create a healthy foundation for a relationship - to truly turn romance into a stress-reliever instead of a stress-creator.

  • Verbal Aphrodisiacs: When people get comfortable with someone, says Dr. Bonnie, they often forget to highlight the little things. "Call attention to the day-to-day contributions each partner makes," she encourages, "and remind each other of the reasons you fell in love in the first place." This behavior will endear partners to each other.
  • Twenty second kiss: Again, this is something that can fall by the wayside in a long-term relationship. "Instead of a quick peck before you leave for the day, although those are important too," reminds Dr. Bonnie, "focus on connecting through a longer, lingering kiss." This action will set into motion those brain chemicals that make people feel loved, safe, and cared for.
  • Thirty second hug: This behavior taps into the emotions that make people feel protected. It's an easy way to nurture feelings of connectedness - another simple act that can go a long way toward a healthy relationship.

Happy marriages relieve stress and make people feel safe and adored. Yes, admits Dr. Bonnie, of course relationships are hard work, but creating healthy habits such as those mentioned above is relatively easy and can provide a safe space to deal with the difficult things that might emerge.

Find more tips from Dr. Bonnie here: http://youtu.be/BjrqJoWX3K4

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Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil's best-selling book, Adultery the Forgivable Sin is being re-released under a new distributor and making its appearance available in eBook format and print on Amazon.com (http://www.amazon.com/Adultery-Forgivable-Bonnie-Eaker-Weil/dp/1587768151/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1321019076&sr=8-1). Adultery the Forgivable Sin was also made into a Lifetime Original Movie starring Kate Jackson.

Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, PhD, is also author of the 2010 New York Times Reader’s Choice Award-winning book Make Up Don’t Break Up with accompanying DVD. Dr. Bonnie is a marriage counselor treating couples, singles, and step families. She works with those considering breaking up, people who have committed adultery, and couples who want to strengthen their relationships damaged by resentment or unresolved anger, teaching people to “fight” to increase passion, bring back magic and restore the sizzle.

As a marriage and family therapist, Dr. Bonnie teaches Smart Heart Dialogue along with intimacy, communication, and connection tools, and counsels families and children.

Named the Best Local New York Therapist in 2011 by the US Commerce Association and known as “The Adultery Buster” and the “No. 1 Love Expert,” she is the best-selling author of other books like Can We Cure and Forgive Adultery?, How Not to (S)mother Your Man and Keep a Woman Happy, and Financial Infidelity: Making Money Sexy.

Dr. Bonnie was named by Psychology Today and NY Magazine as one of America's Best Therapists and is presently featured and available now on the Discovery Health/Oprah Winfrey Network documentary titled "Unfaithful" (http://bit.ly/GSP0KB) and A&E on addictions. Find her on Good Morning America, on the Today Show's three-day series on infidelity, The Oprah Winfrey Show five times, and a four day series on Fox TV regarding dating. She appears frequently on ABC, Fox, CBS and NBC News, The View, 20/20, and CNN; and is often featured in USA Today and the New York Times. Visit Dr. Bonnie at http://www.DoctorBonnie.com.

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