(PRWEB) April 19, 2012
Secret Service members who had their clearances pulled after bringing prostitutes back to their hotel while on the job in Columbia (http://bit.ly/HZRSaB) were experiencing a biochemical craving for connection, says relationship and sex therapist Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil. The organization says they let their boss, President Obama, down with the behavior of these men and it will likely cause additional outrage from the public in regards to taxpayer money being used to hire prostitutes.
"The Secret Service was seen as a badge of honor," says Dr. Bonnie, "and this revelation has definitely sullied their reputation." Behavior like this is not uncommon among people with high stress, high-powered jobs. Politicians are frequently getting caught with their pants down - sometimes literally - and it even extends to the Oval Office where not that long ago President Clinton was impeached for engaging in illicit sexual acts on the job.
Dr. Bonnie says this can all be attributed to the biochemical craving for connection. "When people are constantly dealing with a high-stress environment, they're looking for ways to self-medicate. They're not thinking clearly and they're likely looking for experiences that will give them additional highs and make them feel even more powerful." It's self-reinforcing she says. The more powerful people feel, the more risks they take, which in turn makes them feel even more powerful.
It's an addictive cycle, one often started by something like a high-stress or high-powered job. "But it then devolves into just wanting that high to feel good, or to escape," explains Dr. Bonnie. It becomes a quest for forbidden fruit, to feed the addiction. People with jobs like Secret Service members don't have to look hard for exciting experiences - they're in foreign countries, spending time with powerful people, they're likely to take risks says Dr. Bonnie - and in the right situation, they should!
"The Secret Service's job often depends on them taking risks, so it can be hard to shut off that behavior and not let it permeate every aspect of their life," Dr. Bonnie observes. But the very scrutiny and pressure that brings with it so much excitement, is the reason why people in a public service line of work have to be even more careful about their behavior. Says Dr. Bonnie, "by engaging in compromising behavior, they not only let down the President of the United States, they may have compromised his safety. And they will be subject to much harsher
penalties, both from the public and from their own system of review."
To see learn more about the Biochemical Craving for Connection, watch Dr. Bonnie in these videos: http://youtu.be/vOIomp6CHSo and http://youtu.be/UWFriVLUQDg; and in the Discovery Health/Oprah Winfrey Network documentary titled "Unfaithful" (http://bit.ly/GSP0KB)
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Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil's best-selling book, Adultery the Forgivable Sin is being re-released under a new distributor and making its appearance available in eBook format and print on Amazon.com (http://www.amazon.com/Adultery-Forgivable-Bonnie-Eaker-Weil/dp/1587768151/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1321019076&sr=8-1). Adultery the Forgivable Sin was also made into a Lifetime Original Movie starring Kate Jackson.
Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, PhD, is also author of the 2010 New York Times Reader’s Choice Award-winning book Make Up Don’t Break Up with accompanying DVD. Dr. Bonnie is a marriage counselor treating couples, singles, and step families. She works with those considering breaking up, people who have committed adultery, and couples who want to strengthen their relationships damaged by resentment or unresolved anger, teaching people to “fight” to increase passion, bring back magic and restore the sizzle.
As a marriage and family therapist, Dr. Bonnie teaches Smart Heart Dialogue along with intimacy, communication, and connection tools, and counsels families and children.
Named the Best Local New York Therapist by the US Commerce Association two years in a row (2011 and 2012) and known as “The Adultery Buster” and the “No. 1 Love Expert,” she is the best-selling author of other books like Can We Cure and Forgive Adultery?, How Not to (S)mother Your Man and Keep a Woman Happy, and Financial Infidelity: Making Money Sexy.
Dr. Bonnie was named by Psychology Today and NY Magazine as one of America's Best Therapists and is presently featured and available now on the Discovery Health/Oprah Winfrey Network documentary titled "Unfaithful" (http://bit.ly/GSP0KB) and A&E on addictions. The San Francisco Chronicle, which interviews Dr. Bonnie regularly, voted her one of their love experts.
Also find her on Good Morning America, on the Today Show's three-day series on infidelity, The Oprah Winfrey Show five times, and a four day series on Fox TV regarding dating. She appears frequently on ABC, Fox, CBS and NBC News, The View, 20/20, and CNN; and is often featured in USA Today and the New York Times. Visit Dr. Bonnie at http://www.DoctorBonnie.com.