Dating Expert: How To Approach A Girl
San Mateo, CA (PRWEB) May 29, 2012
It’s not what a guy says, it is how he says it, Xuma explains.
“This is proven to be true over and over,” Xuma says in his new report on how to approach a girl. “Men at pick up artists boot camps in New York City are great at demonstrating how this works. For instance, the experts teaching the boot camp will walk into a hopping club with the men they are teaching. They will ask the men in the class to pick a beautiful woman in the room. Then the experts will ask the men to tell them the worst possible thing a guy could say to that woman. Then the experts walk up to that woman and say that awful thing.”
Nine times out of ten, the expert has the beautiful woman laughing and engaged within five minutes of saying what he did, Xuma says in his new report.
“That’s proof positive that it doesn’t matter what a guy says, it is how he says it,” Xuma says.
That is why rather than concentrate on witty things to say and pick up lines, the best preparation men can do to learn how to approach a girl you like is to work on self confidence and self esteem issues, he says.
“A man oozing self-confidence can say anything to a woman,” Xuma says. “If he says something with the right attitude, he can pull off anything.”
Women like men who have self-confidence, he says. That is much more important than anything else, including money, good looks, and witty pick up lines, Xuma says.
“People want to be around others who are confident,” he says. “It is exactly the same thing as charisma. People with confidence attract others. Other people want to be around them.”
Men who want to learn how to approach a girl should do an inventory of themselves first and make sure they are not letting anything hinder their ability to project self confidence and self esteem, Xuma says.
“Men who take the time to work on being the best men they can be, end up standing head and shoulders above other men in the dating arena when it comes to how to approach a girl,” he says.
Xuma has spent years teaching hundreds of men how to attract women and has been a dating expert and attraction adviser for more than 10 years. He has appeared on ABC and CBS television, as well as Playboy radio. He’s the author of The Bad Boy Formula, Secrets of the Alpha Male, the Girlfriend Training Program, and numerous other books and articles. He has also been recognized for his work sharing dating advice for guys and sharing tips on pick up artist techniques, alpha male behavior, how to approach a girl, and flirting tips for guys.
For more information, visit Carlos Xuma’s website at http://www.datingdynamics.com