“Regret can completely disrupt you from turning over a new leaf in your life—or you can channel that regret toward making the most out of the new leaf.”
Pastor Jamie of followme.org
(PRWEB) July 11, 2012
Is your future stalling because you can’t get over your past?
Potentially hundreds of thousands of Americans are being held back from accomplishing career advancement, healthy relationships and more due to failure to deal with past regrets, according to a faith-based website.
The website, followme.org, today released its 2012 "Six Ways to Overcome Regret" list:
1) Find a friend.
The most important step to overcoming regret in your life is looking beyond your own situation. Carrying around the weight of regret is like lugging a big boulder around behind you; yet, the moment you let a friend come alongside and start lugging with you, the weight feels a lot lighter. Find a friend, a pastor, a family member, or a counselor to walk through this difficult process with you. It will enrich your life, and it will strengthen your friendship.
2) Acknowledge your mistake.
Side by side with your recovery buddy, think through what actually happened. If a relationship ended, think through your mistakes and process them together. It’s important to escape denial about the past, and part of that means acknowledging your mistakes. Still, because you’ve got a friend alongside you, you won’t get carried away with this step.
3) Think big picture.
Take some time to consider the many blessings in your life. Write out all of the parts of your life that remain intact and on track. I told a friend recently: “God’s really writing an incredible story in your life, and he wants to include you in it—if only you’d stop turning back the pages to see how you ended up here.” There’s a bigger picture than you can see—take heart.
4) Interrupt fears about the future.
Like American playwright Fulton Oursler said, “Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves: regret for the past and fear of the future.” Don’t let small fears about your future creep in. Ask your recovery buddy to keep you in check, asking you how you’re doing with regret day by day. Remember, you’re not alone.
5) Learn from regrets.
Use the lessons learned this time around to temper your reactions to future disappointment. Reassure yourself with the awareness that you survived; regret didn’t beat you. You’ve made it! And you’ve got a better friend as a result.
Keep your head up! As Pastor Jamie from followme.org added, “Regret can completely disrupt you from turning over a new leaf in your life—or you can channel that regret toward making the most out of the new leaf.” It seems the choice is ours.