(PRWEB) August 09, 2012
With news that author E.L. James may reprise the characters from "50 Shades of Grey" in a new trilogy, sex and relationship therapist Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil says these books are good outlets for women. "Many women do an additional 30 hours of work in the home, beyond their careers," she says. Add to this that a quarter of women are the main breadwinner, but men are happier if they are earning more - and you have a recipe for tension and stress in many homes.
Women are frequently burnt out, overworked, and have difficulty sleeping because of the stress. For this reason, they need guilty pleasures to help them stay more balanced. Dr. Bonnie says these books are a great alternative to stress eating or drinking; it's a way of fantasizing and over-correcting for the additional work they're doing. It's helping women who have been supermom to sublimation their feelings of overwork and burn out while catering to their need for sizzle, novelty, excitement and romance which is missing in many relationships.
To that end, Dr. Bonnie says these books can actually help couples bring back the missing romance. In her books Adultery the Forgivable Sin, and Make Up Don't Break Up, Dr. Bonnie talks about the importance of women's fantasies and guilty pleasures. "Instead of simply identifying with the woman in the book," advises Dr. Bonnie, "why not act out some of those fantasies with your own partner?" The best thing for burn-out and stress-busting is sex!
Because of this, Dr. Bonnie feels this series can actually help prevent adultery. "Have an affair with your own partner!" she encourages. "Some of my patients are even reading excerpts of the book to their husbands so they can act out scenarios." To build intimacy Dr. Bonnie suggests starting with a 30 second kiss or 20 second hug as a pre-requisite for foreplay. But no matter how the book impacts you, Dr. Bonnie reminds women that it's important to restore the sizzle and magic of a relationship; having an affair with your own partner can be a great way to do so.
Dr. Bonnie talks more about these techniques in her book, Can We Cure and Forgive Adultery, which was made into a movie with Kate Jackson. She was also featured in the documentary Unfaithful which aired on Discovery Health and the Oprah Winfrey Network.