Get out in Nature, Don't Have an Affair: Summer Suggestions for Fidelity

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Research shows being in nature lowers the levels of the stress hormone cortisol (Cosmo Magazine, August issue, pg 207; American Cancer Society: Instead of succumbing to stress and anxiety, relationship therapist Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil suggests couples use summertime and the great outdoors as a way to have an affair with their partner.

Take a vacation in nature instead of having an affair, says relationship therapist Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil. Studies show that being with nature helps people reduce the stress hormone cortisol in their body (Cosmo Magazine, August issue, page 207; American Cancer Society: Dr. Bonnie explains that high stress levels cause a Biochemical Craving for connection which she discusses in her book Adultery the Forgivable Sin - when people self-medicate and stress-bust in order to deal with the stress and anxiety they're feeling. "This behavior usually manifests itself in a less-than-desireable way," she says. "People have affairs, or turn to other types of addiction in order to deal with this Craving."

Instead of letting that happen, Dr. Bonnie suggests using the summer months for couples to reconnect with nature and with each other. Nature reduces stress and promotes feelings of calmness and tranquility. What better way to avoid adultery this summer than for couples to spend time together enjoying the outdoors. To that end, she has a few suggestions for summer fidelity:

  • Plan a trip and fall back in love: Dr. Bonnie encourages couples to experience nature in their favorite way; maybe that's camping, or maybe it's spending time in a quiet cabin somewhere. "Whatever they do," she instructs, "couples should focus on the spark and sizzle that led them to each other in the first place. The backdrop of serene natural surroundings provide the perfect place for couples to focus on each other and their relationship."
  • Take a hike (or a walk)! For couples that can't get away, or to add a little nature to their every day lives, Dr. Bonnie suggests taking a walk together. "This can be something fun to look forward to as a mid-week break, or an activity that couples can share which will bring them closer together over a shared hobby," she says.
  • Picnic in the park: For a mid-day connection, have lunch in the park together. "Connecting during the day is a great way to keep a relationship fresh, and getting together outside provides another level of relaxation and connection," Dr. Bonnie explains.

No matter what, Dr. Bonnie wants couples to take the time "stress-busting" with each other, in nature as a way to maintain low stress levels and prevent the likelihood of an affair.

To see Dr. Bonnie talking more about the mind/body connection click here: Read more about the Biochemical Craving for Connection her book Can we Cure and Forgive Adultery.

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