(PRWEB UK) 18 September 2012
Despite the drop in University applications this year due to the rise in tuition fees, over 200,000 18 year olds will be leaving home and heading off to university this autumn. Parents will be finding the house eerily quiet for possibly the first time in years. For some, they will be feeling more alone than they originally imagined, and many members of UK’s leading married dating site, IllicitEncounters.com, know all to well this situation and have been sharing their experiences.
Rob from Cambridgeshire has told us:
“My wife and I have been married for over 18 years and it was only until my daughter left that we both realised that she was the only connection we had left between us. I never thought to question the state of my relationship with my wife and looking back, I think all physical and emotional attachments probably left shortly after our girl was born.”
We asked Rob what happened after his daughter left home and why he chose to join Illicit Encounters.
“We've since talked, we've argued, we've tried to reason things out and the end result is that we are staying together to 'keep up appearances' but without my daughter around, the incredible loneliness has set in... big home, empty rooms, deathly silences... Am I being selfish ? Being on here I mean ? I know I'm not the only one...”
Mrs J from Swindon added:
“Empty nest syndrome is quite common and since my children have left home I have discovered I have the time to spend on myself and my husband is no longer interested in me sexually, I am happy with my home life I just crave some male attention.”
Empty nest syndrome is a general feeling of grief and loneliness that parents experience when their children leave home to live on their own for the first time. Since a young adult moving out their parents' house is seen as a normal and healthy event, the symptoms of empty nest syndrome often go unrecognised. For most, this can result in depression, anxiety and feelings of rejection.
They face challenges such as establishing a new kind of relationship with their children, having to find other ways to occupy their newly free time and facing lack of sympathy from people who believe that parents should be happy when their children leave home.
Spokesperson for IllicitEncounters.com Rosie Freeman-Jones said “We find that the empty nest syndrome is very common amongst our members, the vast majority of whom are not looking to end their marriage, they are just looking to fill a void. This may not have been previously apparent due to other commitments filling their time such as children. When children leave home, the parents find themselves with the free time and are reenergised into trying to fulfil their wants and desires. For some this could mean beginning an extra-marital relationship.”
Of the members who responded to IllicitEncounters.com's short survey, over 50% said they could relate to or had experienced empty nest syndrome and of those, 18% had cited it as one of the reasons they joined the site.
IllicitEncounters.com offers a safe and discreet online dating service for those wishing to explore the possibilities of rediscovering romance, passion and adventure. Over 30,000 married people joined Illicit Encounters last autumn alone. The site, now over 8 years old, is approaching three quarters of a million members in the UK which is approximately 5% of the married population.
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PressPR (at) IllicitEncounters (dot) co (dot) uk
Illicit Encounters® is UK’s largest online married dating site with over 700,000 members.