New York, NY (PRWEB) January 06, 2013
According to a new 2012 Pew Research analysis of US Census data, barely half of US adults are married -- a record low for US. Between 2009 and 2010, the Pew Research analysis also finds that the number of new marriages in the US declined by 5% in just one year – a sharp one-year drop. These trends are occurring right after the great recession that started in 2008.
If the current trends continue, the share of adults who are currently married will drop to below half within a few years.
“It is a crisis which will affect us as a nation in terms of competitiveness and economics.” said matchmaker extraordinaire and marriage expert Hellen Chen, who has counseled hundreds of men and women who have given up on relationships; and helped them to enter into marriages.
“One plus one is more than two,” Chen shared in a recent ABC radio interview in Dallas, TX. “Marriage helps finances. Finances get better if two persons work together on creating a future. Life’s problems become easier to solve as a team because there’s simply greater energy together.”
For years as a business management consultant, Chen had traveled around the world and been invited to government agencies, small and large corporations, organizations and colleges around the world to give solutions on boosting productivity and improving leadership qualities. “In every lecture that I give, the answers to better work results always end up with the areas of ‘are you being a good spouse or parent in the first place?’ or ‘how do you treat your loved ones at home?’” said Chen.
Chen’s bestselling book “The Matchmaker of the Century” which covers real-life stories of couples who turned their lives around in marriages, devotes a whole chapter on how management of one’s intimate relationships affects the success of a person in life.
Chen wrote about how a good CEO would have the best of results in leading his or her company if he or she would also learn how to be a better spouse.
“It is the ‘training’ which people do not think of. People ask me: you mean, if I learn how to be a better spouse, I would do better in my career? Answer is yes.” smiled Chen.
A 2012 US Census Bureau statistics show that married men and women are earning higher salaries than their single counterparts.
However, the question remains on how one could keep a marriage together if the statistics of divorces is just as high.
In a TV interview from the East Coast, Chen talked about the pitfalls of the dating culture – critically analyzing another person’s qualification based on their wealth or lack of, and critically scrutinizing every weaknesses of the other person so that ‘one does not make a mistake in marrying the wrong person.’
“That is the biggest mistake.” said Chen “People can change. If all you are going after is a stagnant ‘perfection,’ you’ll end up with a decline that is inevitable.”
Chen spoke about how frequent dating keeps a person thinking that the next man or woman would be better. Some men and women never learn what it takes to work through a problem with another person and that is the biggest missing skill that will result in failed relationships.
As part of a series of workshops to help adults learn how to get into the right relationships and maintain a lasting meaningful marriage, Chen will be holding a West Coast workshop on Feb 2nd 2013 in Los Angeles, just 2 weeks before Valentine’s day.
“Marriage does not have to be an experience that ends up badly. If you understand the mechanics of marriage and how it works, you can manage it much better and thus succeed than going into it blindly. But you must get that knowledge of how it works!” Chen concluded.
(More information on the workshop can be found on http://Matchmakerofthecentury.com )