Present buying for the Mistress led to being found out by January bank statements.
london (PRWEB UK) 8 January 2013
The week beginning 7th January is the most popular week for women to file for divorce, but it may not be down to family stresses of Christmas. The MaritalAffair.co.uk survey conducted in December 2012 revealed that more cheating spouses are exposed at the beginning of January than at any other time as credit card statements reveal transactions they shouldn’t.
Maritalaffair.co.uk, the dating site for married people who want to date, surveyed its members on whether they’d ever been caught our by their spouses or partners using the site or conducting a past affair.
More than half of the male members admitted to getting caught, or nearly getting caught, over an affair at the beginning of January and nearly 90% of those cases involved present buying oversights.
December’s credit card statements revealing transactions for jewellery or perfume or other items that never made it to the wife’s Santa stocking was the most common cause for getting caught red handed.
Even for the savvy men who paid in cash, receipts tend to show up in pockets at this time of year as the laundry pile returns to normal. Leaving packaging or branded shopping bags around the place may have gone unnoticed before Christmas but when the January tidy up begins, this was the third most common way for a man to be caught. Business cards from lingerie boutique or jewellers, also left in dirty jeans pockets, were also common tell-tale signs.
“I thought I’d got away with my affair until one year later, an email arrived asking me to renew a warranty for a necklace. Don’t ever give your email or name to sales staff if you are buying something that you shouldn’t.” said one 42 year-old site member from London.
David Montrose, author of the book Sugar Daddy Diary, a memoir of his times dating a string of younger, glamorous women is an expert on hiding his tracks: “I learned to buy a lot of holiday gifts for friends, family, kids, wives, parents on the same day or over two days. That way you can easily hide two or three very nice items for the mistress. Open a separate bank account your spouse doesn’t know about and fund it over the year with very small regular cash deposits, rather than drawing out one big lump sum when the holiday season arrives – no one notices small amounts of cash.”
According to the research, men on marritalaffair.co.uk spent an average of £170 on a gift for their temporary lover compared to an average £90 on their wives or committed partner. Female members of the site reported a measly average £18 spend on their other lover.
The top gift for a mistress was an item of jewellery, followed by perfume, lingerie and a weekend away.
Gloria Bonds, author of How to Successfully Date a Married Man, has spoken to hundreds of men and women having affairs and knows what men should buy: “The worst gifts that mistresses received from their married suitors are gifts that connect them with the sexual aspects of the relationship such as: trashy lingerie, satin sheets, erotic massage oils, or a sex toy. By far, for some mistresses, receiving money was the most offense gift bordering on the notion or the undertones of a bonus for services rendered.
Other married men are generous and thoughtful with their gift giving—lavishing their mistresses with expensive jewellery, designer clothes and accessories, and even cars. Definitely, the gift or no gift at all is a strong indication of how he feels about the mistress in his life.”