San Mateo, CA (PRWEB) January 24, 2013
The hands-down most effective flirting is almost always nonverbal, says Dating Expert Carlos Xuma in his new report.
“I think a lot of guys get caught up thinking that flirting involves something they say rather than something they do,” Xuma says. “And spinning off of that, many men are mistaken in thinking that flirting involves complimenting a woman. That happens so frequently that it bears repeating with a warning: Complimenting a woman does not constitute flirting.”
Too many men waste time telling girls they are beautiful or cute or compliment them on some other attribute, Xuma says in his report on tips for flirting with a woman.
“The reality is that these women have heard these lines a million times,” Xuma says. “They go in one ear and out the other and do zero to build attraction. And ultimately, that is the goal of flirting in a nutshell — a method of building attraction.”
Sure, Xuma says, there are a few guys out there who have silken tongues and can charm the socks off a girl with their words and poetry, but the rest of the men in the world - in reality, the majority of men in the world - are better off playing to primal, instinctive rules of attraction.
“The reason these ways to flirt work so effectively,” Xuma explains in the report on tips for flirting, “is because they appeal to us on a primitive, biological level.”
That, Xuma says, is why any man serious about learning how to flirt needs to become an expert in body language.
“Anyone who really wants to absorb and understand the best flirting tips for guys must realize that becoming an expert on body language is crucial,” Xuma says in his report. “A guy must not only know how to read a girl’s body language, he also needs to know how to project confidence and build attraction through his body language.”
The essence of flirting boils down to these minute aspects of nonverbal behavior, Xuma explains, such as eye contact, mimicking body language and other signs that show attraction.
“Once a guy gets these, then he is ready to explore the next tier in the flirting ladder, which involves learning how and when and where to touch a woman to build attraction,” Xuma says. “That type of information is also included in this report on flirting tips for guys.”
Carlos Xuma is the author of The Bad Boy Formula, Secrets of the Alpha Male, the Girlfriend Training Program, and numerous other books and articles. He has spent years teaching hundreds of men flirting tips for guys, including how to attract and approach women, and how to talk to talk to women through is website, http://www.datingdynamics.com. He has also been a dating expert and attraction adviser for more than 10 years and has appeared on ABC and CBS television, as well as Playboy radio.
For more information, visit Carlos Xuma's website at http://www.attractwomen.com