There are thousands of methods to effectively flirt with girls and some work better for some men than others; that's why experimentation is often necessary.
San Mateo, CA (PRWEB) February 26, 2013
There is a big difference between flirting with a girl in an awkward stilted way and being able to flirt with girls in a smooth, natural way that ultimately leads to dating success, Dating Expert Carlos Xuma emphasizes in his new report.
“Almost every single guy out there thinks he knows how to flirt with a girl because he winks or preens or makes a joke — but the true test of whether a flirting method is successful is whether it attracts women,” Xuma says. “Rather than focusing on how often he approaches and talks to a woman, a guy should measure his success at flirting with how many women he dates who want to date him again.”
Learning how to flirt with girls is essentially the same as learning how to attract women, Xuma says.
“Many times a guy loses sight of the goal — flirting is not the end result,” Xuma says. “Rather, flirting is a tool in a man’s tool chest in how to build attraction. In other words, flirting is only effective if it is building sparks between a guy and a girl. Otherwise, it is just considered normal conversation. Flirting differs from every other method of interaction and conversation because it has a subtle subtext that is basically saying that the two people are attracted and like one another.”
If a guy flirts with girls and that subtle subtext is not there, Xuma says, then it is not really flirting. It is just interaction.
“And that’s fine if it is a guy’s first step,” Xuma says. “But after that interaction develops a comfort level, then it is time to escalate and build attraction through flirtation.”
In fact, Xuma says in his report, flirtation is only effective if it makes a girl want to see more of a guy.
“The trick for guys to remember is that flirtation needs to be ongoing and increase in intensity throughout the encounter or the series of meetings,” Xuma says. “That is the way to learn to flirt with girls in a way that will lead to the most success. There are hundreds, maybe thousands of methods to effectively flirt with girls and some work better for some men than others.”
That’s why, Xuma advises in his report on how to flirt with girls, experimentation is often necessary.
“Look at it as a bit of practice in the field,” he advises. “A guy can then go home and analyze his game and decide what worked and what didn’t and what he should do the next time.”
Carlos Xuma is the author of The Bad Boy Formula, Secrets of the Alpha Male, the Girlfriend Training Program, and numerous other books and articles. He has been a dating expert and attraction adviser for more than 10 years and has spent years teaching hundreds of men important dating skills, such as how to flirt with girls, how to pick up women, and how to meet women. Xuma has appeared on ABC and CBS television, as well as Playboy radio. Learn more at his blog - http://www.carlosxuma.com/dating-tips-for-guys-blog/
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