Couples must accept that sometimes things can't fixed quickly
Los Angeles, CA (PRWEB) April 16, 2013
Patricia O'Laughlin Psychotherapy known for the Psychology of Parenting program in Los Angeles community of Silverlake is taking a step back and looking at couple relationships before having children. "When couples in a committed relationship break the bond of trust there is typically worry and question that the relationship will never be the same," says Patricia When posed with the question about how to restore trust between two-people Patricia O’Laughlin provides insight to the program stating five general questions couples should consider before seeking serious couples therapy:
1. Is the relationship worth saving? Making this decision is not easy as feelings of betrayal are hard. Couples must analyze the relationship and see how invested and intertwined their lives are.
2. What qualities does the person hold that are meaningful? This relates back to when the relationship was first formed. Remember what the initial draw was and ask if that attraction is still present.
3. Was there a particular incident that caused the distrust? Both people in the relationship must understand what happened and want to work out a solution.
4. Are both emotionally able to take in the battle ahead? After an incident such as an affair or any emotional detachment, it takes an emotionally stable couple to get through the issue with any success.
5. How much do you believe the trust can be saved? Most people know in their hearts if the relationship can be saved. If the relationship pre-existing negatives, anything can have an disastrous impact.
Patricia O’Laughlin comments, “Couples must accept that sometimes things can't fixed quickly and trust cannot be rebuilt in all relationships. The skills of forgiveness and taking responsibility must be present. If there's been a pattern of resentment and blaming regaining, trust won't be possible.” Ms. O’Laughlin also remarks, “In addition, if the same behaviors that broke trust are repeating, then it's too soon to rebuild trust.”
Patricia O’Laughlin Psychotherapy offers an introduction to couples therapy upon appointment that helps teams explore which aspects of healing to incorporate into the relationship.
Each meeting is conducted in 50-minute segments and can be done via Skype or in person. Therapy introductions can bring awareness and to incorporate mindfulness into relationships and how the approach can strengthen bonds with between one another.
Patricia O'Laughlin, licensed therapist and Art Therapist, providing EMDR and therapy to individuals, couples, teens, and adults. Silver Lake/Los Feliz, Los Angeles.
http://patriciaolaughlin.com or (323)761-2221. In case of an emergency call 911. http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Patricia_O'Laughlin