Having a plan is often the key to success in so many things in life, and those exact same philosophies apply to learning how to get a girlfriend.
San Mateo, CA (PRWEB) May 09, 2013
Men can learn how to get a girlfriend by following a few, basic steps that almost always lead to happiness and success, says Dating Expert Carlos Xuma in his new report.
“Having a plan and taking that first step is often the key to success in so many things in life and those exact same philosophies apply to learning how to get a girlfriend,” Xuma says in his new report.
The first step that Xuma recommends most men take is to set aside some quiet time and complete an exercise. He suggests that, armed with a notebook and pen, a guy should draw up two different lists.
“The first list should have the most important traits and characteristics that a guy wants in a girlfriend,” Xuma says. “Only list the traits that are not negotiable. These traits should be the absolute must-haves. For instance, a guy might write that his girlfriend has to be faithful. No ifs, ands, or buts about it.”
The second list, Xuma says, are the traits a woman absolutely cannot have.
“These are the dealbreakers. For instance, a guy might put down a girl who smokes in this category if he is a nonsmoker,” Xuma says. “A guy will put this down as a dealbreaker if he absolutely refuses to date a smoker and there is no room for negotiation.”
In doing these two lists, a guy is well on his way to completely the first step in how to get a girlfriend, Xuma says.
“Keep in mind, these lists should not be all-inclusive,” says Xuma. “There should not be a list of 100 things a woman must have. That is unrealistic. The list must be realistic and maybe include about a dozen traits that are realistic requirements, and the same applies to the dealbreakers.”
If a guy has more than a dozen in each category, he is going to have a difficult time learning how to get a girlfriend; if a guy has too many, then he is not being realistic. He may never find the girl who matches his criteria as it becomes increasingly unlikely she will exist.
According to Xuma, making these two lists is a first step in learning how to get a girlfriend, and his new report details where to go from there.
Carlos Xuma has appeared on ABC and CBS television, as well as Playboy radio. He has been a dating expert and attraction adviser for more than 10 years. He is the author of numerous articles and books, including The Bad Boy Formula, Secrets of the Alpha Male, and the Girlfriend Training Program. Xuma has spent years teaching hundreds of men important dating skills, such as how to flirt with girls, how to seduce a woman, and how to talk to women.
For more information, visit Carlos Xuma's website at http://www.carlosxuma.com.