Boys Town's Strategies to Help Children Deal with Arguments

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Children fight and argue; some more than others and some more subtly than others. Boys Town releases advice for parents on how to handle disagreements.

By helping your child learn how to resolve conflicts appropriately, you will be training them to be peacemakers.

Boys Town releases advice for parents on handling disagreements. Children fight and argue; some more than others, and some more subtly than others, but most children will at one time or another attempt to exert their influence over another. The national child care organization, started over 90 years ago, offers this advice to help your child settle arguments and disputes in a constructive manner and minimize arguments and fighting.

1.    Model appropriate conflict resolution skills. Like it or not, our children learn how to handle social situations by observing.

2.    Teach your child relaxation skills to assist her in calming down when she feels herself getting angry. By learning to take some deep breaths before the explosion, there is a greater chance that she will respond appropriately, rather than react negatively.

3.    Avoid being the judge/referee. If you have children who fight with each other, you will drive yourself crazy trying to determine who started it, or who is at fault. Instead of taking sides, give both consequences and then have them work on appropriate negotiation skills.

4.    Give positive feedback when you see your child attempting to use his or her new skill. Let your child know that you are watching and appreciate the effort in trying to avoid arguments.

5.    Provide natural, logical consequences when your child gets into a fight. Make sure your child knows that fighting will automatically produce certain consequences. For example, if your children are fighting over the video game, the game gets turned off.

“By helping your child learn how to resolve conflicts appropriately, you will be training them to be peacemakers,” said Dr. Tom Reimers, Boys Town Psychologist. “It does not happen overnight, but the peaceful results are worth the effort.”

Boys Town counsels families and schools across the country on best parenting and discipline practices. These strategies incorporate those teachings and can be used for effective parenting in the home.
You can find more information at http://www.parenting.org. The Boys Town National Hotline also offers free advice to parents 24/7 - call 1-800-448-3000.

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