If you talk to people who really trust their partner now, they forget some of the negative things their partner did in the past. If they don't trust their partner much, they remember their partner doing negative things that the partner never actually did.
Austin, TX (PRWEB) March 28, 2013
PearHaven, a website for couples' relationships, offers date ideas, relationship advice and the latest scientific research regarding romantic couples. PearHaven now reports on new research from Northwestern University and Redeemer University College (Ontario, Canada), February 27, 2013: trust between romantic partners and how the level of trust helps partners overlook transgressions in their relationships. Couples with a high trust level have positive memories of partners' hurtful actions. Negative memories, the opposite reaction, happen with couples of lower trust levels. Partners were found to harbor anger or resentment toward the partner causing the hurt.
Laura B. Luchies, lead author of this study on trust and assistant professor of psychology at Redeemer University College said, "If you talk to people who really trust their partner now, they forget some of the negative things their partner did in the past. If they don't trust their partner much, they remember their partner doing negative things that the partner never actually did. They tend to misremember."
Researchers know the value of trust in healthy couples' relationships. "Jane Austen Was Right: Love Requires a Little Delusion," February 28, 2013, by Megan Gannon, News Editor at Live Science concludes, "If you're worried that trusting your partner will bring you out of touch with reality, the researchers assure the kind of delusion that trust inspires is healthy for a relationship. Trust signals that it's OK to depend on a partner, and that you can be confident he or she will be responsive to your needs and look out for your best interests, the researchers say."
Lastly, trust is further examined and discussed in Psychology Today's article. "Do I Trust You Anymore? Trust is an Action, Not a State of Mind,"published on March 17, 2013 by Kevin D. Arnold, Ph.D., ABPP in The Older Dad. Dr. Arnold writes "Science now tells us that trust grows from how each of us treats our partners. In each situation when our needs compete with those of our partner’s, no matter how small or large, we each chose to act in our self-interest or in the interest of our partner. Trust springs from the choice to take care of our partner at our own expense."
PearHaven helps to inspire and promote couples' long-term romantic relationships. Using different features to keep couples romantically involved with each other, the website suggests and maps out the best date ideas. The website also offers a fun game-like design called gamification where couples are rewarded achievement badges for their date experiences such as going on dates in different cities or connecting with other couples.
The website fosters strong relationships through the use of technology. PearHaven members share their favorite date ideas, record their memories, post photos and find the best date ideas or relationship advice. PearHaven encourages couples to remember those positive times in a relationship, thus strengthening couples' relationships.
PearHaven's free app for the iPhone and iPad offers date ideas on-the-go. Members can also use the app to post their date experiences and photos while they are out and about. PearHaven's blog features relationship advice, dating ideas and fun trivia.
PearHaven is not a dating site.
It is a social website with free sign-ups for people of all ages who are dating, engaged, in a long-term relationship or married. Members can record their dating experiences, connect with others, post photos and earn achievement badges for trying the latest date ideas. PearHaven.com suggests the best date ideas and maps the locations.The website was founded by David Lackey, a student at Princeton University. PearHaven has a free iPhone and iPad App at the App Store to record date ideas and photos on-the-go.