Properly handling a divorce while children are young and adaptable is better than waiting until children grow up and leave home to get a divorce.
QUEENS, NY (PRWEB) March 09, 2018
Deciding to file for divorce is never easy, and it can be especially devastating on families with children. Managing divorce with children can be tricky, but recent studies in psychology emphasize that “waiting for the kids’ sake” is one of the worst things unhappy married couples can do for their children’s mental wellbeing. Bruce Feinstein, Esq., an experience family law attorney recently took a look at when parents should and shouldn’t file for divorce and the impacts the decision will have on the family as a whole.
Mr. Feinstein largely discusses the myth that “waiting for the children’s sake” is the right decision when it comes to when to file for a divorce as a parent. Citing college counselors and the law office’s experiences with families with college students, Mr. Feinstein expresses his concern for the detrimental effect waiting until children “leave the nest” to file for divorce.
“Freshmen college students who are just leaving home for the first time rely on at-home stability more in their first year of college than they do throughout most of their early teenage years,” explains Mr. Feinstein. “Because they’re already dealing with the increased worries and stresses of adulthood, adding on the worry and stress of managing their parents’ divorce can be overwhelming for new college students.”
Another key issue with waiting to file for divorce, Mr. Feinstein argues, is that parents who stay married despite an unhappy marriage tend to foster tension and conflicts in their home, often placing the children right in the middle of the stress, and as a result, they grow up with no stability. On the other hand, parents could provide separate, happy homes by properly managing the divorce when children are young and having frank and open conversations with them about the changes they’re experiencing.
“Properly handling a divorce while children are young and adaptable is better than waiting until children grow up and leave home to get a divorce,” Mr. Feinstein explains; “managing to provide one (or two) stable homes is far more beneficial to a child’s wellbeing than living in the constant stress of one unhappy, shared home.”
For parents with children, choosing when to get divorced is never an easy decision, but it comes down to realizing what’s best for the wellbeing of both spouses and their children, even if it means having to adjust to the changes of marriage at a young age. If both spouses have tried their best to save the marriage but have determined that the marriage is unsalvageable, it’s better to deal with it when it arises than delay the inevitable and unintentionally cause more harm to children entering their first year of college.
The Law Offices of Bruce Feinstein has nearly two decades of experience in divorce and family law, helping clients and families resolve their issues and move forward with their lives. If you’re thinking of getting married or divorced and want more information, visit feinsteindivorcelaw.com or call (718) 475 -6039 to reach the New York office.