Women Go through the Back Door or to Graves with Abortion Secrets -- a New Resource Helps Women Grieve Abortion Losses

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As a licensed professional therapist, Trudy Johnson, LMFT, shares in her self-help book, C.P.R.~Choice Processing and Resolution, that the oldest client she's worked with was 96 years of age. "She almost went to the grave with her abortion secret. In desperation, though, she wanted someone to hear her story. I listened with compassion. I felt privileged to be a safe place for her. There is something very healing about sharing life's losses with others."

C.P.R.~ Choice Processing and Resolution

“As a former abortion provider, I’ve long known about the need for grieving voluntary pregnancy termination (‘vpt’).” Dr. Christiane Northrup, M.D., F.A.C.O.G., author of the newly revised,Women's Bodies, Women's Wisdom.

After voluntarily terminating a pregnancy, women are on their own to process and resolve the natural sadness that occurs afterwards. Women are abandoned in their sense of loss because the idea of grief over an abortion choice is a foreign concept in our culture. There is an implication that the choice in and of itself is the closure. This is actually not the case for many women. Women don't talk about their abortions for fear of condemnation and misunderstanding.

There is no place or public venue to grieve an abortion in our culture. This type of grief is called disenfranchised grief. The concept of disenfranchised grief and choice decisions was recently discussed in an article titled, "Secret Heartaches" by Trudy M. Johnson, LMFT, founder of Missing Pieces.Org. "Women sit in silence out of fear of being misunderstood or incurring shame or judgment regarding their decision to voluntarily terminate a pregnancy. According to some studies, the immediate relief to the crisis does come, but as time moves along, the grief begins to set in."

Finding the courage to look for help processing grief after an abortion can be difficult. It is ironic that women can walk into the front door of a clinic to get an abortion, but their choices are few when it comes to grieving the loss connected to that decision. After the choice, the clear cultural message is "don't talk and don't cry."

"Disenfranchised grief can be a person's own personal hell on earth, " Ms. Johnson stated in a recent interview. "Grief in and of itself is a difficult journey for all of us. Our culture doesn't do grief well. Even in normal circumstances our closest friends will abandon us if we spend too much time feeling sad over lost relationships, lost jobs or even the normal losses like the death of a loved one. Now imagine anyone understanding grief when (1) it is a legal right and (2) there is no evidence or proof of a loss such as incurred from a choice decision."

Dr. Christiane Northrup, M.D., F.A.C.O.G., recently acknowledged the importance of grieving an abortion decision. Dr. Northrup is author of one of the nation's leading books on women's health, titled, Women's Bodies, Women's Wisdom. Dr. Northrup notes, "As a former abortion provider, I've long known about the need for grieving voluntary pregnancy termination ('vpt')."

Missing Pieces.Org, a counseling group in the heart of the rocky mountains of Colorado, has developed a resource for women needing to grieve the loss of their voluntary pregnancy termination or "vpt." The book, C.P.R. ~Choice Processing and Resolution speaks to all cultures and faiths with no condemnation. C.P.R. is written by professional therapist, Trudy M. Johnson.

According to Trudy Johnson, her writing, that helps women after abortion, C.P.R. ~ Choice Processing and Resolution, is a culmination of a lifetime of information. She experienced a choice decision personally at age 20 and had to find hit and miss, secretive, back-alley solutions to reach closure over her choice.

"The purpose of this book is to help women walk through the whole grieving process on their own without fear and shame. Women can do this in the privacy, comfort and safety of their own home. C.P.R. ~ Choice Processing and Resolution is the book I was looking for and couldn't find when I was seeking help after my abortion," Johnson says.

When asked how many women would be interested in a book like C.P.R ~Choice Processing and Resolution, Johnson gave this insight into the world of choice. "Sometimes there can be a misunderstanding in our culture as to just how many women need to go through this grieving process. Who are these women you ask? They are your mother, your sister, your girlfriend or maybe even you. Women who've made a choice decision are the largest demographic in our nation. Abortion touches every race, every religion, and every monetary status.

"It is my hope," Johnson says, "that CPR ~ Choice Processing and Resolution will provide the help after abortion that women desire and that the book is a safe place for all the women in the world to talk and cry about their choice decision."

Interview segment provided by http://www.missingpieces.org staff.


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