Many men and women entered into marriage with the idea that they could change the behavior of their partner.
Los Angeles, CA (PRWEB) August 21, 2014
Three times #1 bestselling author and relationship master Hellen Chen has helped at least 100 singles who had been skeptical about marriage to find their true love and to walk down the aisle. With a philosophy that love is an "ability" that can be improved, she travels the world to counsel singles and couples on what it takes to keep a relationship lasting and deep.
Her popular Love Seminar will be coming to Los Angeles at the Hilton Hotel in San Gabriel city on Sep 6th Saturday.
A statement that Chen has heard over and over again from men and women who were unhappy in their relationships has been "If only my partner can change for me..."
"Many singles think that their biggest problem is not able to meet the right person. But the more precise reason is they don't even know who is the right person," said Chen, "They know what kind of person they like or dislike. However, this is no measurement of whether the person they like is right for them."
"Many men and women entered into marriage with the idea that they could change the behavior of their partner," Chen added, "That's wrongful thinking and the relationship often ends up in disaster."
She encouraged singles to not spend time and money and energy to go around dating but to look for someone who seriously want to enter marriage.
When asked about why dating a lot to find the right partner does not work, Chen explained in a recent Fox TV interview, "When people date a lot before they get married, their hearts get broken once too often and these bad experiences accumulate. These bad experiences even carry into their marriage and the moment they encounter seemingly insurmountable hardships in the relationship, they break-off easily as they think the next gal or guy would be better."
According to Chen, a marriage is not about what another person could give to self but a chance for self to learn how to give to another.
Believing that most individuals do want a loving relationship, Chen started lecturing and writing books about the subject. As a bestselling author, she has written 25 books and her book "The Matchmaker of the Century" and "Hellen Chen's Love Seminar" became number one bestsellers in relationship books at Barnes and Noble.
Chen's works in family, marriage and personal developments are featured in over 200 media publications in 20 countries. She has been a frequent guest on independent and network radio and TV shows on FOX, CBS, NBC and ABC etc.
To help singles and couples develop the ability to love, Chen has released a whole series of love workshops in Asia and in America.
This upcoming event "Hellen Chen's Love Seminar" on Saturday Sep 6 at Hilton Hotel in San Gabriel city is the 8th workshop Chen will be conducting in Los Angeles.
For more information about the workshop, please contact 800-912-0510 or visit http://HellenChen.com.