Divorce grief does not draw a distinction between celebrity and ‘normal’ person. If you’re grieving the loss of a loved one through divorce—no matter who you are—you need a source of hope in that scary season.
(PRWEB) October 01, 2012
Celebrity or not, many victims of divorce can learn from Schwarzenegger’s means of coping with divorce, says faith-based website, followme.org.
That statement came today as Schwarzenegger today released his controversial tell-all memoirs on Monday, “Total Recall: My Unbelievably True Life Story.” Schwarzenegger told CBS’s “60 Minutes” that he deeply regretted the infidelity that resulted in the collapse of his 25-year marriage to Maria Shriver.
Last week, Schwarzenegger released details of his affair with the family’s housekeeper 15 years ago. That affair resulted in the birth of a son, hidden from Shriver and Schwarzenegger’s children, until the news of the 15-year-old emerged in January 2011. On Sunday, Schwarzenegger spoke to “60 Minutes” staff about the pain resulting from his infidelity.
Schwarzenegger emotionally confessed his regret on Sunday night’s episode. “I’ve always loved her [Shriver]. From the first moment that I met her, she has been an extraordinary woman, extraordinary wife, friend, lover, everything. She did not deserve that. That’s why I always felt terrible about the whole thing,” he told CBS’s Lesley Stahl.
Schwarzenegger shared how each of his children reacted to the news of his infidelity. “The girls were very upset; the boys were disappointed,” he said on Sunday night. “I was terrible. I inflicted tremendous pain on Maria and unbelievable pain on the kids.”
The former California governor also described the many pressures that came along with being California’s “first family.” At one point in the interview, an emotional Schwarzenegger described coming home to hear each of his children cry about him having missed their various activities: football games, dance recitals, and musical programs.
Schwarzenegger confessed to Stahl that the affair, the primary reason for divorce of Schwarzenegger and Shriver, was “the stupidest thing I’ve done in the whole relationship.”
So what happens now for Schwarzenegger and Shriver? Staff at followme.org, a faith-based website that provides resources for spouses coping with divorce, say that those struggling with divorce can learn a lot from Schwarzenegger’s response.
“Divorce stirs up a whole range of emotions—and, the longer the marriage lasts, the stronger those emotions appear. There are various stages of grieving divorce: spouses often move from anger to sadness and regret to eventual acceptance—very similar to one’s reactions when a loved one dies. The story of Schwarzenegger’s collapsed marriage shows the incredible draw of humans toward marriage—and the pain that results from a broken marriage,” said Pastor Jamie of followme.org.
Is the grieving process different for a celebrity of Schwarzenegger’s stature? “Divorce grief does not draw a distinction between celebrity and ‘normal’ person. If you’re grieving the loss of a loved one through divorce—no matter who you are—you need a source of hope in that scary season,” Pastor Jamie said.
For more information, visit http://www.followme.org.