It is important for the husband to be there, not only to understand what his wife’s concerns are, but also to help guide her in the decision making process.
Newport Beach, Calif (Vocus) April 30, 2010
Dr. Joseph Cruise takes a look at the plastic surgery experience from the husband's perspective and offers suggestions to help ensure a supportive and positive surgical process for both husband and wife.
Commonly, when a woman brings up the subject of having a cosmetic procedure it can be met with initial apprehension from her husband.
As one husband states: "I felt she was perfect just the way she was, and I was worried about the general 'What if' concerns that go along with having surgery.”
It is this reason that Dr. Joseph Cruise of Cruise Plastic Surgery feels it is crucial to have the husband come along to the initial consultation so that a lot of the common concerns can be addressed.
"Our plastic surgery consultations are very informative and can be quite emotional,” says Dr. Cruise. "It is important for the husband to be there, not only to understand what his wife's concerns are, but also to help guide her in the decision making process.”
It also gives the husband a chance to really understand the reasons behind their wife desire to have surgery. Some are completely surprised when they hear their wife disclosing to the doctor her daily dissatisfaction with her particular area of concern.
"I had always known that Linda had wanted to get her body back after having the children, but I was completely baffled to learn that she was actually choosing to not participate in certain activities or be in family photos due to how she felt about how she looked, I was unaware of the level in which it was affecting her and the emotional toll it was taking,” says a patient's husband.
While it is a known fact that the positive reactions to the physical results of having plastic surgery are plentiful and obvious, it is actually the inner transformation that the husbands comment on being the most dramatic change in their wives.
"I can honestly say that Shayne's surgery has been a life changing experience for her. While I credit Dr. Cruise for accentuating her natural beauty, I credit my wife for using that as a catalyst to rediscover who she is as a person. I truly feel that Shayne's surgery is the physical springboard for a personal rediscovery. Her infectious personality has actually grown and she is becoming more interested in hobbies that she never was before,” says husband of a mommy makeover patient.
"I did not think it was possible to have my wife be more beautiful to me. Her attitude and the way she feels about her body now has turned her into a new person. When I see her checking herself out in the mirror and see the smile on her face, I know this surgery was the right decision,” says spouse of breast lift with augmentation patient.
Cruise Plastic Surgery offers the following tips for husbands whose wives are looking at having plastic surgery.
- Try to understand her needs and why it is important for her to have surgery.
- Have a heart to heart talk with her about her expectations and concerns.
- Join her during consultations to reinforce your support.
- Be actively involved in the decision making process to ensure she is safe.
- Look for a board certified plastic surgeon with a lot of experience in this particular procedure
- Make sure all is organized and taken care of at home while she is healing from surgery.
You must understand that throughout your wife's plastic surgery journey, she needs your support more than ever. Working together as a team in regards to all decision making and planning will not only help to ensure a positive experience, but it can also bring you closer together.
Watch video of a Mommy Makeover Patient
About Joseph T. Cruise, M.D.
Joseph Cruise, M.D. a board certified plastic surgeon in Newport Beach, CA, began his career as a burn surgeon reconstructing disfigured burn victims; restoring human form to bodies and faces. He has since dedicated his practice solely to cosmetic surgery and educating the cosmetic patient. This dedication and focus is clearly evident in the comprehensive educationally based web site he manages and the concierge-like customer service his patients receive. Experience and predictably good results have earned him the distinction of being one of the busiest plastic surgeons in Orange County. Extensive information including numerous before and after pictures can be found at http://www.CruisePlasticSurgery.com including all face, body, and breast procedures. Also included is an elaborate section for Dr. Cruise's out-of-town patients who fly in from all over the world.
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