There is no manual for grieving that takes into consideration the unspeakable tragedy that the Giulianos have been through.... [T]hey need more than a formulaic guide for coping with grief—they desperately need relationships to pull them through.
(PRWEB) October 02, 2012
Shocking tragedies demand that communities actively reach out to families grieving and learning to cope with grief, according to faith-based website, followme.org.
That statement came today as authorities released more details on the shocking case of a Connecticut man who allegedly shot and killed his own son when he mistook him for an armed burglar.
When Jeffrey Giuliano received a call from his frightened sister and neighbor in the middle of the night on September 27, he began searching the perimeter of his sister’s house, only to find a masked, armed prowler, Connecticut state police told the Associated Press. When the suspicious prowler threateningly stepped toward Giuliano, he shot and killed the man, state police say. Giuliano soon realized that the armed prowler was his 15-year-old son, Tyler Giuliano.
Now, days after the tragedy, the family’s attorney says that Tyler's death is “a loss that cannot be measured” for the Giuliano family, according to a Hartford Courant report from Monday. According to the Courant report, Jeffrey Giuliano and his family adopted Tyler after Tyler’s birth-father was sent to prison.
Jeffrey Giuliano, a “trained marksman” with extensive experience in personal and commercial security, had a permit to carry his weapon and had reason to believe his son was an armed robber, the family’s attorney, Gene Zingaro, told the Danbury News-Times on Monday. As such, Zingaro does not expect any criminal charges to be pursued.
Meanwhile, Jeffrey Giulano continues to grieve the loss of a child. “To say he’s not doing well is an understatement. His family has been ravaged by three tragedies all at once,” Zingaro told the Danbury News-Times. “They’re not doing well. The family is heartbroken. And they’re trying to make sense of all of this. They’re searching for answers.”
But how does a family move past a tragedy like that? Followme.org is a faith-based website that provides spiritual resources for those coping with grief, in all walks of life. Its leaders say that the Giuliano story shows how the death of a child can affect an entire community.
“There is no manual for grieving that takes into consideration the unspeakable tragedy that the Giulianos have been through. Yes, they will continue to move through the traditional five stages of grief; however, Mr. Giuliano and his family need more than a formulaic guide for coping with grief—they desperately need relationships to pull them through,” said Pastor Jamie of followme.org.
“Whether that relationship is a faith-based one, a new-found connection to their local community, or just drawing family close to their sides, the single most important ingredient for overcoming a tragedy like this is remaining in uplifting, empowering relationships. For those living with grief from tragic losses, hope can be found in relationship,” he said.
For more information, visit http://www.followme.org.
A community memorial service for the Giuliano family was held on Sunday night in their town of New Fairfield, CT. According to Connecticut news station, WFSB, over 900 people attended the service.