Actions may speak louder than words, but this is the day to make sure that the words are not left unspoken.
San Mateo, CA (PRWEB) June 5, 2008
Too often sentiments of gratitude to an aging parent are left unexpressed or not expressed enough. "Father's Day should be a day to express gratitude to your father for how he influenced your life," states gerontologist and elder care expert Esther Koch. "Celebrate your father in life, not after death," advises Koch. These are the memories, that Koch calls "Moments of Joy," which will last a lifetime.
For some, feelings of gratitude may need to be found first. If in any way you are grateful to be alive, you owe that partially to your father. "It may take some forgiveness, but a little forgiveness can eliminate years of regret," says Koch. Anyone can begin anew this Father's Day, or any day.
Gratitude is expressed in the smallest, most thoughtful of ways. "Actions may speak louder than words, but this is the day to make sure that the words are not left unspoken." Koch recommends focusing on the impact your father had on your life and provides these thoughts:
Does your father really know that you love him? Don't be asking the question upon your father's death, "I know my father loved me, but did he know how much I loved him?" Say "I Love You" and express it from the heart.
Was your father always there for you, no matter what? Tell him that and then let him know that you will be there for him, no matter what.
Did your father set you on the right path in life? Although you are your own decision maker now, let him know how important that foundation is to your life. Perhaps there are ways he can still be that confidant and counselor for you now.
Were there any specific lessons in life that you owe to your father? If he probably thinks those went through one ear and out the other, let him know the real story.
Are there any lessons from your father that you have passed on to your children? You really need to tell him those. And next time you are all together, share those lessons with your children again.
"Express your gratitude in person or by phone, but deliver a handwritten note too," encourages Koch. "You're likely to find it again amongst your father's most treasured possessions."
Koch concludes, "May your life be filled with no regrets; may you see the extraordinary in the ordinary; and may someone be there to brighten your world as you age."
About Esther Koch:
Esther Koch is a gerontologist and eldercare advisor. Her firm, Encore Management, provides personal and corporate advisory services and seminars that assist Boomers with the range of issues associated with caring for an aging parent and their own aging. Her media interviews and articles have appeared on television, radio and in print. For more eldercare tips and information about Esther Koch and Encore Management visit http://www.EncoreMgmt.com.