After all, there will be a time where a daughter or son become a parent one day. Understanding that our parents are not perfect people and in spite of that, continue to love them is what we could do.
(PRWEB) June 30, 2013
In early part of June, Hellen Chen, a relationship and family expert whose marital and family principles have been featured in over 200 media publications, was interviewed in Los Angeles about the distance many children had with their fathers, rather than with their mothers.
Chen mentioned that according to a search of articles online, a search of keyword "angry at mom" on Google revealed 49,000 results. But "angry at dad" brought 235,000 results.
A humorous E-Card on the website SomeECards.com reads, "Happy Father's Day. To the drug dealing dad who couldn't face his legal problems and ran way."
"It is natural to feel closer to a mother than with a father because of the birth process. But instead of dealing with the faults of a parent, why not learn to become a better son or daughter?" said Chen.
At the interview, Chen shared her own unique story about growing up in a family where mom was constantly mad at dad.
When Chen was 3 years old, her mom asked her a question, "If mom and dad would no longer be together, who would you follow?" Not understanding her mom's intention, little Chen answered, "Both."
Later, as Chen grew up, she understood why mom asked her that question.
"When I was growing up, there was not a day where I did not see my mom and dad quarreling and fighting. My mom would tell me all the nasty things about dad and I would see them at each other’s throats every single day,” said Chen.
It was so bad that Chen and her siblings even once suggested that her parents get divorced.
Chen continued on to become the author of 20 books, an expert in the field of relationships and walk her talk about creating lasting relationships by having a solid marriage with her husband of twenty-some years.
So what happened to her parents?
Not only did the divorce not happen, senior Mr. Chen and Mrs Chen just celebrated their diamond wedding anniversary.
“It was a tough long road. We did not know which way it would go. My father said that I helped their marriage. My mom told me many years later that she was happy that she did not separate from dad,” shared Chen.
“I told myself that by loving them fully without reservations, I would support them in whatever decision they would take,” said Chen.
In the interim, Chen has helped tremendous number of individuals who had given up on relationships whether it is between parents and child, or with husband and wives. One of her books "the Matchmaker of the Century" contains real-life stories of how she has helped singles and couples to overcome tremendous hardships, disappointments and challenges in relationships. The book has become a bestseller on Barnes and Noble.
“Our mom and dad are not perfect. It is unfair to expect them to be perfect role models when they have their own change to go through. But a child learning how to love a parent in the end is more important than being mad at them,” said Chen.
"After all, there will be a time where a daughter or son become a parent one day. Understanding that our parents are not perfect people and in spite of that, continue to love them is what we could do." Chen smiled.
To help men and women to create a lasting relationship with their loved ones, Chen started a series of Love Workshops around the world.
See http://matchmakerofthecentury.com for her workshop locations and dates.