Boulder, CO (PRWEB) June 13, 2012
"I haven't seen my children for a single Father's Day since we were divorced six years ago," laments Jason Clark. "She just won't let me see them."
The 'she' to whom Clark (not his real name) refers is his children's mother. As Father's Day fast approaches, DadsRights.org reminds divorced parents and their families that children need both parents, and that it is possible to ensure that children have a good relationship with each parent, regardless of how the parents feel about each other or how much distance is between them.
"Too often divorced and single fathers are made to feel as if they have no meaningful role in their children's lives, while children of divorce are left with just one parent, and are told that this is normal," explains Anne P. Mitchell, Esq., founder of DadsRights.org, one of the oldest and most respected fathers' rights sites on the Internet. "But it's not normal - it's damaging to children, both in the short term, and in the long run."
"In fact, mothers who perform a dadectomy on their children are damning not only their children, but their children's children, to a lifetime of relationship and intimacy issues."
"Plus, studies have shown that girls who are raised in father-absent homes are far more likely to end up pregnant as teenagers, while boys who don't have a father in their lives are much more likely to turn to alcohol, drugs, and crime," adds Mitchell.
While many single moms see Father's Day as being 'about dad', with whom they may be fighting, or about whom they may still have bad feelings, it is also about the children being able to honor the father/child relationship. Depriving dad of that special day also deprives the children of that special connection.
"Many single fathers will not be able to spend this Father's Day with their children," observes Mitchell, "which sends the wrong message to the children as much as it sends a message to their father. Children take their identity from both their mother and their father, and when the message about dad is that he is no good, what children internalize is 'half of who I am is no good.' What parent would knowingly do that to their children?"
Mitchell, one of the first fathers' rights attorneys in the country, has been involved in fathers' rights advocacy for more than 20 years. A graduate of Stanford Law School, Mitchell maintained a fathers' rights law practice in California, and was a professor of law at Lincoln Law School of San Jose, before moving to Colorado, where she is still involved in advocating for single fathers and their children.
Mitchell's book, "They're Your Kids Too: The Single Father's Guide to Defending Your Fatherhood in a Broken Family Law System", helps single fathers navigate the divorce and custody system to stay involved in the lives of their children, and to increase their time with their children.
A noted expert on issues such as parental alienation, parental kidnapping and false allegations of abuse, Mitchell includes sections about these devastating issues in her book.
The book also includes a comprehensive state-by-state directory of legal aid resources in every state.
"No situation is hopeless," concludes Mitchell. "Oh, people may tell you that it's hopeless, and to give up - but dads, you should never, ever, give up on your children. You just need to know the right way to go about it. That's why I wrote this book - to help all of the fathers out there who weren't able to come through the doors of my law practice."
"They're Your Kids Too: The Single Father's Guide to Defending Your Fatherhood in a Broken Family Law System" is available on Amazon for $15.95.