Dating longer does not equal improving the chance of a happy marriage
Los Angeles, CA (PRWEB) August 05, 2015
In her recent bestselling book titled "Hellen Chen’s Love Seminar," author and relationship expert Hellen Chen revealed that 85 percent of the time, dating ends in breakups and dating a longer time before getting married does not always mean a stable and happier marriage.
For over a decade, Chen has played the role of matchmaker and counselor to numerous singles and couples. She has conducted seminars and workshops around the world on how to have a satisfying and happy marriage.
"Dating longer does not equal improving the chance of a happy marriage. I have seen couples divorcing even though they have dated each other for 6-8 years before the marriage." said Chen.
Chen has seen singles delaying marital commitment in order to "make sure" the person in front is the right one.
"Yet, like a self-fulfilling prophecy, the unwillingness to fully commit opens the door for an eventual breakup. Most people who only date and don't commit will end up separating with their partners." said Chen.
Jonathan K, a sales executive in the insurance field, shared his first-hand experience of having wasted time "checking out" a partner.
"I thought the smart way to go about selecting a partner is to date first for a few years. But after 3 girlfriends over a period of 10 years, I was exhausted emotionally and financially and ready to give up my dream of having my own family." said Jonathan.
He got smarter and after applying the concept taught at one of Chen's workshops, Jonathan found his current wife and is now a father of two children.
"The feeling of settling down in marriage is such a world of difference than the surreal relationship of dating with no goal in mind. If you want the real thing, don't waste your time dating someone who does not share your idea of commitment." said Jonathan.
At a workshop given in Los Angeles, Chen also pointed out that despite more and more dating tools available to really get to "know" a person's background and profile, the rate of divorce is increasing globally nevertheless.
"People change. You may think you know someone very well but 5 or 10 years later, they change their habits and behavior. Rather than focusing on who the right partner may be, why not work on learning how to manage changes and thus make a marriage lasting and satisfying anyway?" Chen shared.
Hellen Chen will be holding a new Love Seminar in Los Angeles on October 24th and 25th. At this event, Chen shares the biggest secret to make a marriage lasting and deep. And she will talk about how to how to use the strength of a relationship to increase careers, prosperity and even health.
She invites single adults, whether divorced, separated or never married, who are looking for love, as well as those who are married and would like to learn how to manage their relationships to attend the popular event.