Offers Advice to Seniors and Their Families on Living a Life Without Regret and Tips on How To Do It

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Finance Marlin offers the lessons learned by palliative nurse, Bronnie Ware, in her book, “The Top Five Regrets of the Dying: A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departing”, and detailed in the April 27th Collective Evolution article, ‘The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying’, as cautionary tales to seniors to make the absolute most of all of their minutes.

As you lie on your deathbed you probably wont be wondering what the ‘in-crowd’ from high school, college, or work thought of you, your wardrobe, and your overpriced car.

The duty of a palliative nurse is to relieve or lessen the suffering of the charges, without the ability to cure them. Nurse Bronnie Ware spent several years tending to the needs of the dying and was able to detail their final thoughts, ideas and, yes, regrets, in a blog entitled Inspiration and Chai. The blog became so popular as to become the aforementioned book. Although the book was published last year, its import is still reverberating all over the web. Following the recent Collective Evolution article, the Editor of believes that the information and lessons gleaned from the book cannot be overstated, and lists below the five regrets of the dying and offers tips on how to remedy them:

1. Live life according to personal standards, not what others think or expect. Go ahead, live the dream, whatever it is. The most valuable lesson learned is, as Shakespeare said, “…to thine own self be true…” The senior writer of can be quoted as saying, “As you lie on your deathbed you probably wont be wondering what the ‘in-crowd’ from high school, college, or work thought of you, your wardrobe, and your overpriced car.” Finance Marlin believes that when one is in their final moments, it’s not about how much money is in the bank, a funeral policy, or who will get what that is running through one’s mind. In final breaths people are more apt to think about the things they would have done differently knowing that none of the petty fights or material things in life truly mattered.

2. Slow down and find the time, right now. One of the biggest regrets, mainly from men, is that they worked too hard and missed their children’s childhoods and their partner’s companionship.

3. & 4. Personal expression and the ability to acknowledge feelings also proved regretful to many. Frequently people suppress their own desires and/or feelings in exchange for a perceived greater good. The lesson learned here is that joy and happiness are a choice. Choose them.

5. Cherish friendships. Ms. Ware found that "…everyone misses their friends when they’re dying." People, wrapped up in their own lives, let friends fall by the wayside. The remedy is to pick up the phone now and call the people who matter.

The biggest lesson to be learned from the list of regrets is immediacy. The key is to act right now while there is time and hope left. details the top five regrets of dying people and gives details on how to avoid them.

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