Our attitudes and how we are perceived at the beginning of an encounter determine, more than anything else, our success or failure
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Toronto, Canada (PRWEB) March 10, 2014
Nicholas Boothman (http://www.NicholasBoothman.com), a prolific international speaker, career and life strategist, and bestselling author of How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds or Less, is weighing in on Ellen DeGeneres’ record Twitter retweet during the Academy Awards, emphasizing the importance of face-to-face networking in this age of increasingly dominant social media. Boothman is also providing his top reasons why small talk can help quickly define personal and business relationships.
“In just 10 years, social media channels have evolved from simple meeting places to become the world’s most important networking and marketing channels. In fact, Ellen DeGeneres crashed Twitter for more than 20 minutes this past Sunday at the Academy Awards when a star-studded selfie she took was retweeted a record two million times,” says Nicholas Boothman. “But while there’s no denying the importance of social media networks like Facebook, LinkedIn, and Twitter, there is no substitute for face-to-face networking.” (Source: Cieply, M. and Barnes, B., “A Landmark Oscar Win for ‘12 Years a Slave,’” The New York Times, March 3, 2014; http://www.nytimes.com/2014/03/03/movies/awardsseason/oscars-2014-winners-and-losers.html?hpw&rref=arts.)
Boothman notes that while social media is an easy platform for faceless, face-to-face interaction is about finding out about what’s going on in another person’s world. In today’s fast-paced society, people want to find out as much about someone as possible in the shortest amount of time.
“Unfortunately, this fast-paced communicative overload can be impersonal and turn people off. While it’s important to maximize one’s time when meeting someone, it’s more important to build trust; which can be accomplished in a matter of seconds,” he adds. “In spite of seeming to have little useful purpose, small talk is a bonding ritual and an ideal strategy for finding common ground, sensing energy levels, and managing interpersonal distance.”
Boothman explains that small talk is an extremely important and often undervalued and overlooked communicative skill. Small talk helps define relationships between friends, work colleagues, and new acquaintances by quickly exploring and defining each other’s social position. Most importantly, it allows people to signal their mood, sense the mood of the other person, and determine the next move.
“As an opener, small talk indicates you have friendly intentions and desire some sort of positive interaction,” he observes. “In a business meeting, it enables people who don’t know each other to establish each other’s reputation, level of expertise, and relationship. As a closer, small talk can mitigate rejection, cement a relationship, and soften a parting.”
“Our attitudes and how we are perceived at the beginning of an encounter determine, more than anything else, our success or failure,” Boothman concludes. “Overeagerness can be a turnoff, but a certain amount of small talk can actually enhance face-to-face communication and relationships. That’s not something any social media channel can lay claim to.”
A prolific international speaker, career and life strategist, Nicholas Boothman is the bestselling author of both How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds or Less and How to Connect in Business in 90 Seconds or Less. As an internationally renowned consultant and keynote speaker, Nicholas Boothman has been called upon by more than 500 corporations, thousands of small businesses, and six of the world’s leading business schools to rally and inspire their staff to take risks, connect, communicate, and articulate their business ideas in ways that convince. A veritable who’s-who of the corporate world, some of Nicholas Boothman’s clients include AT&T, The New Yorker, Johnson & Johnson, the Royal Bank of Canada, JP Morgan Chase, Harvard Business School, Queen’s Business School, and the Sorbonne in Paris. Nicholas Boothman has also been featured on Good Morning America, The Today Show, and The Early Show. To learn more about Nicholas Boothman, visit his web site at http://www.NicholasBoothman.com.