It boils down to: are you following your own goals or are you following the goals of others? If you have longed for love and yet you have no time for it, maybe it is time to re-think your priorities.
Los Angeles, CA (PRWEB) May 04, 2013
May 4th 2013 Los Angeles: Hellen Chen, marital expert and bestselling author, whose recent book "The Matchmaker of the Century" became a bestseller in marriage and relationship books on Barnes and Noble, delivered the 3rd Love Workshop in Los Angeles to working professionals.
Among the attendees were singles who have been looking for a compatible mate and divorcees who would like to step back into marriages again. Another part of the attendees were married men and women who despite being successful in their careers, did not have much success at home.
Chen's principle of "one plus one is more than two" mentioned in her book has encouraged working professionals to not to look at marriage and family as a hassle, but rather as a way to expand one's growth as a person.
"We spend lots of hours at our work. But truthfully, when it is ready for us to kick the bucket, would we have regretted not having worked more hours? Or would we regret not having spent more time with the people we love?" Chen asked at the workshop.
Chen mentioned that the emphasis on academic achievements and then career achievements and making money had not taught young adults how to nurture relationships.
Jean C, a marketing executive for over 15 years, was married in her 20s but got divorced 6 years after. "I am a typical workaholic. I would not think twice to spend huge amount of hours at my work but I would simply not spend time to take care of my spouse." Jean confessed.
"I came to the right workshop." she smiled.
In this workshop, Chen also addressed the issue of infidelity - why most couples would mishandle it and while the marriage could be salvaged in many cases, why most people decided to give it up.
This lesson proved valuable for Jenny L, a mother with 3 children, who has been married for 20 years.
"When my husband got involved in an affair, I cried my eyes out and thought how unfair it was to have this happened to me at age 50." Jenny recalled her upset.
She found Chen's workshop and decided that this would be her last resort: to learn how to salvage her marriage or just let it go.
At the end of the event, Jenny walked away completely surprised with her discovery.
"There have been long time marital problems which I have chosen to brush aside, always with the excuse of no time and 'I am busy working'" Jenny said. "But what has really surprised me is in the same way, I have brushed aside my own interest and my learning. I have forgotten how unhappy I have become -- with myself."
Jenny made the decision to do all she could to improve herself first. "I see that the old adage of 'don't point a finger but lend a hand' applies very much in how we treat ourselves and how we treat our loved ones." Jenny said.
Chen said that she had heard many working professionals saying how they had to 'make a living' and thus had no time to take care of their love matters.
Chen said, "It boils down to: are you following your own goals or are you following the goals of others? If you have longed for love and yet you have no time for it, maybe it is time to re-think your priorities."
Chen has started an international Love You Forever campaign, to encourage working professionals to learn about how to create a lasting relationships. Having already helped over 100 singles to tie the knot, she hopes to personally help another 60 singles this year to step onto the red carpet.
Chen's marriage philosophies could be found on http://MatchmakeroftheCentury.com