Burn Anger Before Anger Burns You
Oyster Bay, NY (PRWEB) April 01, 2012
Learn how to be happy and wealthy from an immigrant who migrated to the USA with a total of $8 and is now ranked #1 when one Googles, "Rich Immigrants."
The following is an extract from Dr.Harsimran Singh's book,“How to Always be Happy" which may be very helpful for anyone to be happy and wealthy in life.
“It is easy to get mad and blow off some steam by screaming at the top of one’s lungs while pulling their hair out and making a big scene. But who does this make feel better? How does this help or change the situation? If anything, this makes things worse, as everyone knows from experience. There has been at least that one time where you blew up and felt guilty afterward. Perhaps you took your frustration out on someone who didn’t deserve it or, perhaps, you feel that maybe the individual deserved your verbal lashing but you still felt terrible after the incident. When things like this happen, we feel guilty for a reason. We know we are wrong and have misplaced our anger and frustration often making the situation worse," writes Dr. Singh.
Ultimately, the people realize and know that they could have and should have handled the situation differently. Dr.Singh explains it further, "Most of all, you feel guilty because you are a good person who had a moment of vulnerability and weakness and decided to react in an undesirable and unproductive manner. Everyone gets angry, from time to time, because we each are different in our own little ways. But as much as we are different, we are all very much living and breathing human beings trying to make a way through this thing called life. We all have different thoughts, emotions, and ways of dealing with things."
The author goes on writing to say that when an individual gets angry, one would see a change in one's voice or more aggressive body language. This does not make the situation better nor does it make our problems go away. Taking this into consideration, one must learn to choose one’s actions wisely because people are judged by their actions as well as their words. To feel better about situations that typically make everyone angry, Dr.Singh says, one should explore methods, and alternative outlets, through which one can alleviate one’s negative emotions and energies. This can be done through Meditation and Prayer, Exercise, or through Communication.
The author adds, people may have different ways of expressing their anger but they should make a conscious effort to extinguish their anger in healthy ways. When people act physically out of anger, they hurt themselves and others by creating additional problems. If they utilize exercise to use their built up physical energy instead, it will result in a positive and productive outcome when compared to the negative consequences and repercussions of physical aggression.
Similarly, when people choose words to lash out in anger, but do not think about and control the things, people also dig themselves into deep, dark, and lonely hole. Since they cannot take back their words or actions. Sometimes dealing with anger and conflict resolution is all a matter of what a person says, how a person says it, and how the other person, or people, involved react to that anger response. Tone and volume are to be considered into talking through anger and conflict.
“Choose to take the high road and be the better person in every conflict that may arise. There are many good people in this world that are more than willing to help others, learn to deal with their anger and frustrations” adds Dr.Singh. Whether people choose to approach dealing with their anger from a spiritual, physical, or verbal standpoint, they should always remember to take the high road when conflict arrives.
Dr. Singh is the author of 13 books to inspire people for making money and being happy including, "How 12 Immigrants Made Billions-12 Keys to Success". Some of them had hardly enough money for a cup of coffee or a bus token when they landed in the USA. Some did not even know English. They are now listed as billionaires by Forbes magazine.