Regret, the disappointment or distress from a decision, can be debilitating and cause one to lose hope in the future. In a marriage regret can lead to divorce and heartbreak. The easiest solution is to avoid regret in the first place.
Roanoke, VA (PRWEB) June 27, 2013
Stay-at-home moms have a difficult job. The relationship between husband and wife changes significantly when a working wife becomes a stay-at-home mom. Lisa Endlich Heffernan recently wrote a blog post and hit the TV airwaves with her “Nine Reasons I Regret Being a Stay at Home Mom.” Relationship coach Mark Jala offers a constructive counter to Ms. Endlich Heffernan with 5 relationship tips for stay-at-home moms to avoid regret.
“Regret, the disappointment or distress from a decision, can be debilitating and cause one to lose hope in the future. Regret does not affect just a solitary person. It affects all those with whom the one with regret has relationships. In a marriage regret can lead to divorce and heartbreak. The easiest solution is to avoid regret in the first place,” says Mark Jala.
The changes Lisa made by becoming a stay-at-home mom were stressful. Mr. Jala suggests that there were things Lisa could have done to make the transition to being a stay-at-home mom easier. Relationship coach Mark Jala offers these 5 relationship tips for stay-at-home moms to avoid regret and keep family relationships vibrant.
1 – Determine ones needs. It’s important to understand human needs and what fulfills those needs. If one has a need to contribute or to grow mentally, finding ways to meet those needs while being a stay-at-home mom is necessary.
2 – Decide together and don’t play the “What-if” game. Once the decision to stay at home is made, stick to that decision. When a person sticks to their decisions there are no regrets. It’s OK to look back and consider how one might have done things differently. Maybe it’s just semantics, but taking responsibility for one’s decisions lessens feelings of regret.
3 – Decide the family role models and what is expected from each partner. How one defines the husband and wife roles today is important. If one decides to be a stay-at-home mom, what changes can be made in the family relationships that keeps everyone happy and feeling secure in who they are?
4 – “Keep the Pilot Light On.” Keeping the foot in the door with work will keep the mind creative and optimistic. I agree with Lisa 100% on this one. Today we have so many more opportunities to stay connected with a work environment than Lisa did 20 years ago. Consider all options and remember the work connection may or may not be with the current or previous employer.
5 – Arrange daily time private time. This one is critical. I have some friends that are stay-at-home moms and it is funny hearing them talk about the moment their husbands come home from work and how immediate the transfer is. The husband takes over caring for the children and the wife gets time to herself. Hit the gym or taking a long walk are good examples of using private time. It doesn’t matter what it is but private time is essential to clear the mind and rejuvenate the spirit.
These tips serve two functions. They will help one handle the decision of being a stay-at-home mom and improve the relationship with the husband and children.
About Mark Jala
Mark Jala is available for interviews and speaking engagements. Book him for your show today. He is available on short notice via telephone. Mark Jala writes for http://www.CookTalkLove.com and is writing his first book about using the family meal as the perfect setting for constructive family communication. Sponsors please contact Mr. Jala by email or phone for full details.