San Francisco (Vocus) April 24, 2010
With Mother’s Day coming up May 9, sons, daughters and husbands everywhere are looking for ways to make Mom happy. David Cunningham, Landmark Education communication expert, offers some suggestions for making moms everywhere feel extra appreciated, loved and recognized.
A recent poll indicated that what most moms really want is a simple “thank you,” along with respect, appreciation and gratitude. Cunningham offers these simple, practical tips for making moms feel special on Mother’s Day and all year long:
1) Say thanks for a specific moment.
While any form of appreciation is a gift, moms especially appreciate being acknowledged for something specific they have done. Cunningham suggests family members shine a spotlight on a specific time mother did something really generous, protective, or loving. Maybe she believed in a child when no one else seemed to, or she sold the silver to send a child to summer camp. Perhaps it’s the crazy little dance she’d do to cheer up a grumpy baby or a child feeling blue. Whether it was a small act of kindness or a major act of “only-a-mom heroism,” spouses and children can make Mom’s day by reliving the memory with her -- and thanking her.
2) Do something “just for her.”
Another way to surprise and delight a mom on her special day is to think of actions that will speak to her as the individual she is. It could be as simple as taking over some chores and responsibilities for the day, or sitting and talking over coffee. Or it could be as elaborate as setting the date to take her on a trip. The point isn’t to do something grand or elaborate, but to show appreciation in a way that takes into consideration what is fun or meaningful for her, Cunningham says.
3) Let Mom know she got the job done!
The best present of all is easy to give and doesn’t cost a thing, Cunningham says. The greatest gift for any parent is to know that they got the job done with their sons and daughters. Children can help reassure their mom of that fact by letting her know they’re okay and their life works -- and by giving her the credit she is due for her part in that success. The point is not that things are perfect, but that even with all the inevitable ups and downs and everything that’s happened or not, your life really does fundamentally work, and mom is valued for helping make that possible. Talking about that success makes it real for the whole family and helps make Mother’s Day a day of true celebration.
David Cunningham is a communication expert and seminar leader for Landmark Education, a personal and professional growth, training and development company that's had more than 1.2 million people use its programs to cause breakthroughs in their personal lives as well as in their communities, generating more than 100,000 community projects around the world. In The Landmark Forum, Landmark’s flagship program, people cause breakthroughs in their performance, communication, relationships and overall satisfaction in life. For more information about an upcoming seminar near you, please visit http://www.landmarkeducation.com .